Posts Tagged ‘Politics’
Friday, January 8th, 2010
As I was writing my Elegant Leadership blog about the poor choice of language from Michael Steele, of the Republican Party, I was reminded of a powerful scenario from a Leadership in Action program I led years ago.
There was a group of 24 business people from various organizations who gathered together for a week to understand leadership capabilities from an experiential perspective.
Thursday, December 31st, 2009
I am so delighted to introduce you to my new blog “Elegant Leadership” that will be posted at http://blog.ceoptions.com/ after the New Year. Since I love to write I will have a more personal blog at www.sylvialafair.com to include thoughts and ideas about relationships, health, and education, as well as business.
Elegant Leadership will include all my newest research concerning leadership. I will suggest the best books, articles, and unique individuals I can find to help you on the difficult daily journey of being the best leader you can be.
Why did I choose the title “elegant leadership”? I honestly think it chose me. I woke up with the term, like a drum beat, repeating over and over in my head. Maybe I had a dream about it, not sure. All I know is, I love the word “elegant” as it is used in scientific realms. In nature elegant signifies finding the simplest and most precise way of responding.
Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009
Yesterday I wrote about a husband and wife who are economists stationed in Afghanistan. Somehow, that set up a stream of connections about the world structure from an economic perspective. The next night, still in London, there was a CNBC show called “House of Cards” about the failures of Wall Street and the mortgage mess. It grabbed my attention.
While riding the Tube, eating fish and chips, window shopping, meeting with clients, talking with friends, my mind had a strong background song repeating and repeating about power, evil and possibilities (or the lack of them!).
Thursday, July 30th, 2009
Denial, as the joke goes, is more than a river in Egypt. It is something we all do on occasion when what confronts us is too hard to fathom. So, we say, “No, this isn’t happening”. Has to be a dream…mistake….joke…. And then, we pull ourselves up and do what we have to do, most of the time, some of the time.
Except deniers! They refuse to heed warnings and will do what they have always done the way they have always done it. Ever wonder why? Ever hear the expression “Better safe than sorry”? That is the mantra for the denier. Usually there was a trauma that happened in the family that went underground, too painful to discuss and the youngster learned that the best way to handle anxiety, stress, and pain is simply to ignore it, pretend it away.
Tuesday, July 28th, 2009
What exactly happens when people come together to discuss contentious issues? Normally all sides are consciously willing to talk in a fair and balanced way, and unconsciously prepared to protect their points of view. There may be a verbal “I really want to understand your perspective”, yet, underneath survival mechanisms are at play.
Thus, the traditional double bind is working. We want to listen, seem willing to change and yet, and yet. Samuel Goldwyn, long time head of MGM Studios in Hollywood said it best: “I don’t want any “yes-men” around me; I want everybody to tell the truth, even if it costs them their jobs”. Somewhere in our growing up we learned what is safe and what will cost us, our careers or maybe even our lives. So most of us shut up and go with the party line.
Double bind! Whether you agree or disagree, you lose! If you speak up you can cause trouble and if you don’t you are selling a part of your soul. Camps are set up. Isn’t that the game we play all the time? This no-win mentality so prevalent in many organizations keeps people from being able to really talk together, to engage in honest dialogue.
Monday, July 6th, 2009
There is a very interesting article in the Washington Post about Mark Sanford regarding moral principles and leadership that really made me think and here is my response:
Are we asking the right questions? At this time it needs to be more than “Did Sanford stray”? It is important to look beyond one incident and address long term behavior patterns to find what a person is really made of.
In Sanford’s case he responded to his many incidents of infidelity as an avoider. His eyes were roving for many years and he could not find the courage to straight talk with his wife. They have a long road to travel and that is their personal issue.
Monday, June 29th, 2009
How many more “family values” based politicians will make the news about affairs this season? It is interesting that the latest, Governor Sanford had his press “mea culpa” conference sans wife by his side. He needs to do this alone and it will be interesting to see what he can learn from his philandering.
The news around him is familiar. The talk shows have experts tell why he did what he did and what he should now do differently. Experts who write about narcissism call him a narcissist. Experts who don’t believe in divorce talk about the devastation for the children. Experts who focus on politics dissect his career possibilities.