Archive for the ‘Power’ Category

Leadership Challenges for the New Year

Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather?

There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them.

 

What do we want from our leaders to help us with the tides of change?

The following article gives food for thought. So does my response. Enjoy.

What does leadership look like?

Glenn Llopis

Bringing the immigrant perspective to business leaders

Leadership Contrast: Men and Power

Thursday, December 22nd, 2011

 

Lots of deaths of powerful men in the past year. Many have been dictators who had tons of money and little integrity.

 

 

 

Think about these 3 questions:

  1. Ever wonder why we permit these men to “rule” us?
  2. Ever wonder why millions will stay quiet and let those who have found the path to brute power to keep it?
  3. Ever think about how we can make a better difference and make a better world?

Vaclav Havel was an actor, a playwright, an artist. Maybe there is a clue there. The arts are a way to the heart. Even the word eARTh gives us a clue. Expressing oneself through music, movement, painting, poetry, theater touches the deep core of who we are. Maybe, just maybe, we should be finding leaders who have a different kind of power to lead us. Havel had that mysterious and important blend. What about you?

Havel: Hero Of Our Time

Click above to read the article by Barry Wood, Economics Journalist at HuffPost World.

Leadership and Democracy

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

Sean Penn, a great Academy Award winning actor is also a passionate activist. I spent time mulling over a statement he made while I was catching up on the news on the plane coming from Las Vegas.  I was riveted watching a program about what a democracy requires.

“Democracy is no democracy without participation” was an important quote from Sean Penn. I sat thinking about leadership and what it takes for leaders to activate our participatory neurons. Plane rides are great places to zone out and also to have quiet time to think.

My reverie brought me back to sixth grade where I was elected the Vice President of our class. “What do I do?” I queried. “Not much” was the reply from the President. He made sure to inform me that HE would be in the limelight and I would simply be there, well, in case he got sick or there was something boring he did not want to participate in.

It was a time before “the girls” took strong stands. I looked at dear Bill and smiled, “I guess I’ll take my cues from you.” “Yeah, good idea” was his reply.

Even at the age of twelve the conditioning to let others dictate behavior, what is and is not allowed, what can and can’t be done is deep. And I was one of the question askers, one of the GUTSY ones.

It did not take long before I started to create some waves at school. “Why” I asked our teacher did the President have all the power and I, the Vice President had none? (Do you think Joe Biden asks this also?).

I got little from my teacher who just wanted us to “behave”. I was told that was just the way things were and to accept things as they were. What was so perfect was that Bill became majorly annoying in school and before I knew it there were rumblings of impeachment. That would mean I would be President. Sounded good to me!

Now, as I look back I think about what a major learning time that could have been for all of us twelve-year-old kids. Instead, the teacher called a meeting of the “rabble rousers” and told them you cannot impeach a President for liking his job and for showing off. We did not have a leg to stand on and thus the delight about impeachment soon faded away.

What also faded away was our fascination with power, personalities, and politics. Most of us became uninvolved and the school year ended with little learning about how to really participate in a democracy. What we learned was what so many of us took into the workplace, which is how to behave properly and be politically correct.

GUTSY GIRL to GUTSY WOMAN

Wednesday, July 13th, 2011
GUTSY Woman

Pauline "Gutsy Gal"

We are thrilled with the continuing changes that have started since we launched the GUTSY Women Weekend Retreat in May.

 

Not knowing what to expect a nurse from Philadelphia entered The Country Place Retreat and Conference Center filled with anticipation yet, no real expectations. She just knew that the name of the program had a punch she couldn’t resist.

Then the weekend started. We went way back; way, way back to when our ancestors were the hunters and gatherers. Hey did you know that females have a greater ability to see the color red than men do? Want to know why? It’s because as gatherers women had to find the ripest berries to bring to the table.

Not to be left outside the color wheel, men see the color blue better. Why? The thinking is because as the hunters they were always happy when the sky was blue or they were on the lookout for a stream of water, clear water that would have a blue tint to it.

 

Then we moved to present time where we saw how most little girls learned what it means to “play nicely and behave”.  The pleaser pattern showed its head early on for females who mostly wanted to be popular.

 
Pauline, our nurse without expectations, began her own personal journey to get in touch with the GUTSY GIRL that had been dormant for years. She was able to see how family, culture, and crises formed her behavior patterns and quickly, in the blink of an eye as they say, she got in touch with the child who was spunky, curious, and well……GUTSY.

 
She recently sent us a picture of little Pauline with a smiling grown up Pauline and a thank you note for the fun time she had connecting the two parts of herself.

 
And that’s what GUTSY is about, giving ourselves the option to explore ourselves as leaders and really get into the groove, cause girls just want to have fun!

 
Join us for the next GUTSY WEEK END August 5-7 at The Country Place. And you men out there….give your gal a treat and surprise her with this week end. Promise, you will get the benefits for ever and ever and ever!

Sarah Palin, Communists, and What it Means to be Exceptional

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

The following article is one to sink our teeth into and really look at what a word really means. We are going to hear tons about “American Exceptionalism” as the campaign heats up. We have an opportunity to question the rhetoric rather than blindly accept the slogans and chants. This is a great one to start with. Hey, if you think you are exceptional, you may want to dig down and really figure out why. In my mind we are all exceptional just by the fact we are here on planet earth. Exceptionalism, and exceptional are ego words that can do more harm than good. Let me know what you think, especially if you exceptionally disagree with me!

USA 3.0 by Harry Shearer, contributor, Huffington Post

LONDON — As I write this I’m flying back to America, specifically New Orleans, to celebrate July 4 by watching fireworks over the Mississippi River. I say that right up here at the top to establish my Yank bonafides. In addition, my parents sought out this country as a refuge (one denied, it should be noted, to many of their equally desperate compatriots), so I’ve never stopped being grateful that, at least for them, for that special moment, the golden door was open.

But we’re three trillion dollars down, the latest reports say, in trying to — to what? Protect ourselves? Export freedom? Make the world safe for our oil interests? It’s hard to know. This America 2.0 would be impossible for the Founders to recognize, even with folks running around with the banner of the Tea Party. After all, the Founders, slave-owners mostly, wouldn’t see themselves in Michele Bachmann’s characterization. Nor would they recognize a country that thinks nation-building in the graveyard of empires is the spunky little republic they established.

Click Here to read the full article.

My Response:
Thanks for suggesting that we look at that ego based word “exception­al” or in this case, “exception­alism”. Interestin­gly enough, that word was first used by members of the American Communist Party in the 1920′s (Let’s pause while Sarah Palin gags!!). What the communists thought set America apart was its abundance of natural resources (yes to that), it’s absence of rigid class distinctio­ns (huh) and the possibilit­y it could avoid the need to use war to keep itself strong (comments anyone).

In my work as an executive coach I come across way too many leaders who are stuck feeling and thinking they are exceptiona­l and sadly what that translates to is “being above an ethical code of conduct”.

We have to thank the conservati­ves on the right and our communist brethren of old for keeping the image of American exceptiona­lism alive. And thanks to Harry for putting the term under a microscope­.

 

Leadership Dilemmas: Careful Who You Trust

Friday, October 8th, 2010

Hot off the press from a friend who owns a retail clothing store that is both upscale and filled with amazing accessories. She has a team of sales associates who have “the eye” and can dress their clients for success.

Trust at WorkIt just takes one great necklace, or a perfectly placed pin to make a dress shine and shimmer, stand out from the crowd. Women loved to go there and men, believe it or not love to hang around and see their ladies smile and smile and smile.

So, suddenly there was a downturn that had nothing to do with the economy. It had to do with thegeneral manager who was put in charge.  This woman had come up through the ranks and proved her worth at every turn, or so it seemed.

Here is the lesson and the place to really pay attention. Some people are great when in an employee position. They are super good at following direction and want to please. Then, if put into a place of authority, power becomes an aphrodisiac and they lose direction; Dr. Jekyll becomes the notorious Mr. Hyde.

All leadership development programs would do well to include a module on checking out how to test the trustworthiness of newly minted supervisors. In this case, the woman who became general manager literally started to grow fangs and it was an emotionally and financially costly situation.

She began to tell the sales associates she would “watch their backs”. She also told those she did not like they were at risk of being replaced and she would do her best to keep them as long as she could.

Problem was that the owner trusted her and did not check with the others to see how it was working. She wanted to believe she had put the right person in place and went on lots of buying trips without checking in with the rest of her staff.

Not uncommon, when we trust we go on to new, creative territory. So, here is the warning you need to heed if you are an entrepreneur and love the fun and adventure of the new. CHECK IN! ALWAYS CHECK WITH YOUR STAFF!

Make sure those you trust have earned the trust over time. When power is put in people’s hands it can turn into a disaster if not monitored. So, check to make sure there is proper alignment. No, it is not gossiping behind people’s backs, it is good management.

My friend has been doing lots of clean- up work. Once she saw the number of staff people who either quit or were fired she had to personally call up her past employees. She heard stories that were initially devastating and yet, all these people liked her and finally told her what was going on behind her back.

The biggest learning she now teaches her staff is to be wary of anyone who say,s “I’ll take care of you, you can trust me, I have your back.”  Those are the words of a splitter and they can damage an entire organization if you give them open ended trust.

Fast Company and Randy Komisar

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

Randy Komisar

The following interview with Randy Komisar underlines the requirement for leaders to have interpersonal skills that stand head and shoulders above the rest. This is where the leap from average to amazing occurs. Just one humorous note: as I read the article there is a sentence I first read as “people are not fun”. “Huh” was my thought as I reread and what it really said was “People are not fungible”. Now that is not the most common everyday word, so no wonder I skipped over it too quickly. However, this is a vastly important thought. People are not fungible; they are not interchangeable. Of course you can always get a replacement. Yet, that is not the point. We are all unique and if our skills and talents are helped to grow we all can work together to create success, as Randy states, “success is created by a group of people and not by a single individual”. Good thoughts to ponder.

What Breed Is Your CEO? Randy Komisar on Leadership and Management

BY Kermit Pattison

In the life of a company, every dog has its day. So says Randy Komisar, a veteran Silicon Valley venture capitalist and entrepreneur who has spent the last 25 years launching technology startups. Komisar is a partner at Kleiner Perkins Caufield & Byers where he specializes in working with technology entrepreneurs. “I’m not attracted to them because of the bottom line,” he says. “I’m attracted to them to them because of the top line–they change they can make.” His own pedigree: co-founder of Claris Corporation, CEO of LucasArts Entertainment, CEO of Crystal Dynamics, founding director of TiVo, senior counsel at Apple Computer, author of two books, and “virtual CEO” to an array of fledgling companies. In this Q&A, he warns of the classic mistakes of manager-wannabe-leaders, the perils of too many bullets and not enough Zen, and why CEOs are like dogs.

Kermit Pattison: What are the classic pitfalls you see entrepreneurs making over and over again?

Randy Komisar: Mistaking the difference between leadership and management. A lot of people believe the two are the same and believe that, because they have been effective or excellent managers, that they’re capable of leading. While the two ideally come together, the qualities and attributes of a leader and a manager are not exactly the same.

In your mind, what’s the difference between management and leadership?

Management is more operationally focused. It’s more of a supervisory role of setting priorities, allocating resources, and directing the execution. Leadership is more forward thinking, more about enabling the organization, empowering individuals, developing the right people, thinking strategically about opportunities, and driving alignment. Mind you, the line is not black and white. But it’s a classic mistake that because someone is a good manager that they’ll necessarily be a good leader.

In early stage projects, the CEO oftentimes is effectively a project manager. I’ve seen some of those people over-think leadership–literally start to compound the challenges by thinking too big and not immediate enough.

They start to think, “Oh, I’ve got to be a leader, I’ve got to start reading books and learning theory?”

Exactly–I need a vision statement, I need to define my culture in five bullet points. When I started running companies 20-something years ago, I learned that the first thing to do was to define my culture, which meant sitting down and writing up a cute little vision statement. What I realized, after being involved with enough companies, is that these vision statements all look alike, the words are gobbledygook and they’re not very meaningful.

Now what I usually say is, “We’re going to come up with a culture statement a year after we formed.” Put it on the calendar. Why after a year? Because then we can actually see what out culture is–what we don’t like about it and what we do like about it.

How much of leadership is natural versus a discipline that can be learned?

The first thing to realize is how many different styles of leadership can be successful. There isn’t one style of leadership that is innately more successful than others. There are certain skills sets, which are learnable, that are very important. You need to be able to communicate. If you can’t communicate well, you won’t be able to inspire, motivate and attract the resources necessary for success.

Prioritization is a really important skill. You’ve got to know what’s more important than the other thing. It’s amazing how many really smart people can’t prioritize. Only a minority of people can effectively prioritize and focus.

And you need to have effective interpersonal skills. That doesn’t mean you need to be social and it doesn’t mean you need to be outgoing. But it means that when you sit down in your office with somebody who’s relying on you for leadership, you’ve got to be able to emphatically communicate with them around their challenges, figure out how to help them be more successful and resolve their conflicts so they can do their job better than they thought they could.

You say companies need different breeds of leaders at different stages. How are CEOs like dogs?

I call the first CEO the retriever–the leader who has to go out and assemble the resources. They have to go out and find the people, the money and the partners. That person is really great sales person–they have sell the vision every day. They’re asking people to believe in something that doesn’t exist and take a substantial leap of faith.

The next is the bloodhound CEO. You got to find out where that value proposition is going to find paydirt so you can actually build a business around it. You’ve got something now, but how do you optimize it? You’ve got to sleuth that out.

The husky is the next one. Now you’ve got a product, a value proposition, and you’ve figured out your business model. Now you’ve got to pull this sled as it gets heavier with people, products and customers up a hill, which is essentially the hill of building a big successful business.

The one dog you never really want pulling your company is the St. Bernard.

The rescue dog.

Right. Because at that point you know you’ve got big trouble.

Even a great leader, if the wrong breed at the wrong time, can be a mismatch?

Absolutely. There are different talents in the creation of businesses and running of businesses that need to be taken into consideration. A mistake often made in the venture investment business is rushing to bring in a big CEO into what is still a small venture. The mismatch of skills is severe. The big CEO needs resources, needs a strong sense of direction and momentum, and is not very effective day-to-day with a bunch of people putting bits and bytes together. The other mismatch that’s harder to foresee is the small company with momentum. You say, great, let’s bring in the guy who can grow it to $100 million and take it public. The problem is that you may face yet another significant right or left hand turn in your business which that CEO may be completely unqualified to do.

I liken it to a story a friend of mine told me many years ago about driving through the Sahara. For three nights the road through the sand was dead straight to the south. On the third night, there was a right hand turn. At the base of that turn, it’s full of crashed trucks. I think about that CEO the same way. If you’re not an agile, venture CEO you are very likely to end up crashing at that turn.

What episode earlier in your career were formative experiences on leadership?

At Go Corporation I worked for Bill Campbell, who has absolutely been formative to me. Bill showed me, first and foremost, that business was worth doing. At that point, I was a lawyer and I certainly had no inclination to go into business. To me, business was about buying low and selling high–a fun game, but not an interesting life. Bill taught me the high art and that what was interesting are the people you work with, the people you sell to, the constituents and stakeholders you bring together, the art of being able to manage them all together to succeed, and to create potential beyond the obvious. I just found that mesmerizing–that’s why I do what I do today.

If you look at the ranks of CEOs today, who strikes strike you as being particularly thoughtful about leadership?

When I read interviews with CEOs lately around leadership, I’ve got to tell you, the stuff that gets published seems awfully conventional. I’m not seeing any brilliant insights about leadership lately from the leaders who get a following out there.

I’ve given up on the guru model and think more in the Zen model: things will change and that’s okay. What we need is a set of constant provocations. What I like to read are those things that really challenge my assumptions, authors who are willing to think differently, no matter whether I agree with them or not, because they at least broaden my own thinking. What I don’t like reading is the pablum–the 10 habits of great leaders or whatever. Those are constraining and not very effective for the average person.

Speaking of bad advice, what’s the worst advice about leadership you ever heard?

One of the most important lessons I learned is that people are not fungible. I’ve had bosses who said, “We’re not going to pay well, incent, or develop our people because there’s always somebody to take their place.” The problem with that logic is, while it might be statistically true, it fundamentally indicates a culture that is not going to invest in anybody. Nobody is going to become very effective.

The other piece of leadership that somebody tried to teach me, which I dismissed, is manage by the numbers–if you manage by the numbers everything else takes care of itself. Just get people to execute, measure, hold people accountable, and that’s enough. That’s not enough. Yes, it is important to instill accountability in organization, it’s important to have good metrics, to discipline the process, reward people, and withdraw those rewards when they’re not being effective. But that won’t get you greatness.

So what does get you greatness?

When I am most successful, it’s because the people around me have made me successful. It comes down to the fact that success is created by a group of people and not by any single individual. How do you get people to come together around a goal and objective and be great? It’s establishing a sense of common purpose. Greatness doesn’t come from a tactical sense of execution. Greatness comes having a vision that goes beyond yourself and even beyond the organization.

Teaching Leadership

Tuesday, July 6th, 2010

There has been a fascinating discussion going on for several weeks on the Leadership Think Tank Group on LinkedIn. The question is “If you could teach one thing to a young leader what would it be?”

There have been over 250 responses and the vast array of answers creates a composite of the myriad aspects of  leadership development. It does seem that the largest number of answers believe that leadership is an art and craft that can be learned.

One particular answer by Tom Tavares caught my attention. He talks about helping leaders with the vital skill of problem solving under pressure. He states “Based on 500 in-depth profiles of leaders in a wide variety of industries, 80% or more fall back on their own problem-solving skills when under pressure. Leaders start their careers as specialists and are strong problem-solvers. When pressure builds, fixing things themselves provides a sense of control.”

This is so true and is something we all need to consider when the going is tough. In “Don’t Bring It to Work” I talk about the fact that when stress hits the hot button we all tend to revert to patterns of behavior learned in our original organization, the family and that is what we bring into the workplace.

Think about how you coped under pressure when you were eight or ten or fourteen. Now, look at how you problem solve in your adult life at work? What are the common threads? this will help you find the way out to new and more effective behavior.

In the third session of our Total Leadership Connections program problem solving is a key theme. Participants have the opportunity to do a “Pep Talk” concerning a problem-solving issue of their choosing. They can decide to address a work issue or one closer to home. Pep Talk stands for “Pattern Encounter Process” and there is the opportunity to look at the long-term behavior patterns, the coping mechanisms that absolutely pop-up unconsciously when there is stress and anxiety.

What is amazing is how hard it is to see it on ourselves when we are in those stress-filled moments. We learned how to survive when we were kids. How do I know? Just look in the mirror; we’re still here. Trouble is what worked for us as youngsters is not always the best solution as an adult.

Think about it; did you take the fight or flight route? Many a young leader both takes the offensive and is a persecutor and finger pointer in getting through tough times. Others take the avoider route and figures everything will handle itself if I just wait long enough. Others become the victim, some the rescuers. There are the deniers who look a problem square in the face and say “No big deal”.

We can see so many of the patterned responses playing out in the tragedy of the BP oil fiasco. But wait, before you cast the first stone, look inside and think about your own leadership manner of working through tough times at work.

Back to Tom Tavares advice; he suggests leaders take the route of collaboration saying “one mind and many hands is less intelligent than many minds in solving problems from the outset.”  I agree that this can help stop the old patterned responses from taking over. Being able to use your leadership team in a cooperative manner and making sure there is openness to question decisions can lead to better and best decisions in the long run.

What’s in a “C”?

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

We have an incredible team of administrators from the Derry Township School District at an off site at The Country Place. They are all achievers of excellence, so when I suggested that this past year we have been working together was “the year of the C” a look of disappointment went around the room like a cloud hiding the sun.

I explained, it had been a year of the “See” and the “C“.

They have all been willing to look at how a high level administrative team can harness workplace conflict, master workplace relationships, tackle leadership dilemmas, be pioneers and visionaries in the field of education, build trustworthy relationships, and have enjoyable friendships all at the same time.

They all “see with new eyes” and embrace life long learning. The task now is to take the skills they have learned to the faculty, board, parents, and youngsters they are helping prepare for the rest of their lives.

Here is what is in a “C“:

Challenge: response to the call that “there is a better way”

Connect: learning that we are all in it together and no one wins unless we all do

Curiosity: Shaking things up to see what “new” looks like, sounds like, and feels like

Culture: exploring how a culture blossoms when risks are taken

Commit: understanding the power of an entire system willing to forge a new path

Communicate: working with the forces of choosing the right words to tell the truth

Cause: weaving education, including administrators, teachers, parents, children, community, and board into a well constructed tapestry

My barometer of hope is high. This team of pioneers is making a difference. As they explore their own self awareness and the power of pattern transformation they are taking leadership development and workplace relationships to a rarified realm of innovation and creative intent.

When You Will It Do You Really Find the Way?

Monday, May 24th, 2010

Will power; it’s a mysterious force that some seem to have and others don’t. Some are able to say no the luscious decadent dessert, others can stay away from the golf course on a beautiful day, and others can practice a dance routine till they are about to drop.

What is the mysterious force that says “Yes, you can do it” or “No you can do without it?” Why do most of us fail miserably and feel like jerks as we watch the chosen few win the awards and trophies and have to listen to how hard they worked and how they never gave up.

There are so many motivational books about focus. That “if only” you would decide to stay “on purpose” you can do anything. Well, I tell you sometimes, it just ain’t so!

Take me for example. I just lost a lot, I mean a lot of weight. I have said no to my favorite Pinot Noir, to amazing crème brulee, to freshly baked bread. And everyone has congratulated me on my will power.

Except, it did not take any of my own will; it took a combination of the right ingredients. There is a small amount of a whey shake, some coconut oil and a shot (literally) of a hormone that burns away the fat.

I learned from this that will power sounds better in a motivational speech than often is the case in real life. I did not crave anything. I’ll say it again, I did not crave anything that would keep weight on my thighs or butt.

I know what to eat; I have known what to eat for decades. I have done every fad diet and every nutritional way of eating and yet, there it was; that annoying extra weight. Sometimes you just have to wait for the right combination to find you and then eating right, finishing a project, finding a new job, or a new lover, or a new home just happens.

What I have learned from going back to my small size clothes after more than a decade of struggle is this; don’t give up the quest, what you really need is there, somewhere. More important than that, stop beating yourself up and looking to others to give you the answers; doing what is good for you is easier if you give yourself a break.