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Leadership Lessons: Grace and Dignity Never Die

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

FeministThe following is a beautiful article about Gloria Steinem and a tribute to all the women who saw a better way. Think about your capacity to be a visionary and what you are willing to do to make the world a more fulfilling and healthy place.

Gloria Steinem: Looking Back and Moving Forward

By Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, Contributor for Huffington Post

Watching HBO’S fascinating new documentary, Gloria: In Her Own Words, I felt overwhelmed. Not that I did not know Gloria’s story. I did. But as I watched her evolve from a journalist forced to cover patterned pantyhose to an activist demanding equality for women, the simple truth struck me over and over again: my life is better because of Gloria Steinem.

This realization may be a disappointment to Gloria, who makes it clear in the film that she’s not looking for thanks. She even quotes another feminist icon, Susan B. Anthony, who declared, “Our job is not to make young women grateful. It is to make them ungrateful so they keep going.”

And in large part, she succeeded. I and many women of my generation take for granted so many of the opportunities that Gloria and many women of her generation had to demand. Entering the workforce as a journalist in the mid-50s, Gloria describes an environment where “there were no words for sexual harassment. It was just called life.”

The modern women’s liberation movement that Gloria sparked fought for equal rights and fair treatment, reproductive rights and control over our own bodies, and basic respect. She also worked tirelessly to extend that support to others in need, including the gay community and minorities of all kinds from all over the globe. Viewing herself as more persuader than crusader, she launched Ms. Magazine in July 1972 to amplify her voice. It was — and still is — a voice of justice and reason set apart from many other feminists by her preternatural
Midwest calm and disarming sense of humor. One of my favorite things about the documentary is all the footage of Gloria laughing and dancing. For all of the hostility and insults and even cruelty she suffered, she also experienced great success, great friendships, great loves and great joy.

It is that joy which permeates this documentary — a celebration of a woman who is smart and determined and warm and honest and funny and sexy and cool. At 77, Gloria remains all those things as well as modest. At a Q&A after a screening, she insisted, “If I’d been hit by a Mack truck, the woman’s movement would have still happened.” I am not sure that this is right, but it is certainly a gracious and generous thing to say.

So watch the movie, cheer Gloria’s triumphs and then get inspired. Because the fight’s not over and Gloria’s not looking back. “The point is we go forward,” she says. “We’re nowhere near where we need to be.”

That’s true. We still haven’t achieved the goal of real equality for women in the workplace and men in the home. Women continue to need protection not only globally where many women lack basic civil and human rights, but also here where the most dangerous place for an American woman is still shockingly in her home. We’re currently 70th on the list of nations for electing women to our national legislature and in 44 years, we’ve closed the pay gap by only 19 cents. We can — we must — do better.

And how do we move forward? In the documentary, Gloria offers the following advice to young women. “Listen to the voice inside you and follow that,” she says, adding “The primary thing is not that they know who I am, but that they know who they are.”

Let’s take her advice and move forward with the same determination and with a sense of humor as well. And let’s also take a moment — just a moment — to thank her. Because whether Gloria likes it or not, we are extremely grateful.

Gloria: In Her Own Words premieres Monday, August 15th at 9 PM on HBO and is produced by Peter Kunhardt and Sheila Nevins, directed by Peter Kunhardt, editing and graphic design by Phillip Schopper; original music by Michael Bacon. For HBO: supervising producer, Jacqueline Glover. For Kunhardt McGee Productions: executive producer, Dyllan McGee.

Leadership Lessons from Real Leaders of Yore

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

ShackI talked about Ernest Shackleton in “Don’t Bring It to Work” as an example of an emotional explorer who shows the power of resilience. The following post gives all the powerful details, enjoy.

 

Leadership Lessons from Ernest Shackleton

by Brett & Kate McKay

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In September of 1914, Anglo-Irish explorer Ernest Shackleton set out on the Imperial Trans-Antarctic Expedition with the goal of being the first man to traverse the Antarctic continent. Aboard what would become his aptly-named ship, the Endurance, he and 27 men set sail for the South Pole. But along the way, the ship became trapped in ice, setting off a series of events that would lead him away from his original goal and yet test him as a man and enshrine him as a hero far more than the attainment of it would have. While he did not complete the transcontinental journey he had hoped for, he brought back all 27 of his men alive, a feat of magnificent leadership without parallel.

How did he do it? Shackleton’s leadership abilities were myriad, but today we will focus on the two most vital: his resilience and service.

A Leader Must Be Supremely Resilient

Resiliency involves both the hardihood and courage to take on risks and challenges, and the ability to bounce back from difficulties and disappointments. Shackleton would face hardships that almost defy belief, and it was his iron-clad resilience that allowed he and his men to survive.

The story of the Imperial Trans-Antarctic Expedition is the story of surging optimism met with crushing defeat manifested over and over and over again. That the former never failed Shackleton, and the latter never broke him, is truly what brought his men through to the other side.

Numerous times, Shackleton and his men felt incredibly hopeful that a goal was in sight and things were turning their way, only to have these hopes utterly dashed:


The Endurance trapped in ice.
  • The Endurance gets stuck in the ice floes before reaching Vahsel Bay, where the expedition across Antarctica was to begin. But Shackleton is still hopeful that if they wait until the ice melts in the spring, they’ll be able to continue the journey.
  • But after months trapped in ice, the pressure from the shifting floes twists and breaks the ships; it slowly fills with water and Shackleton must issue the order to abandon the vessel. The men must now camp on the ice floe.

The men attempt to pull the boats across the ice floes.
  • Shackleton is hopeful that the men and dogs can pull the supplies and boats across the ice floes until they reach open water, at which point they can set sail for Paulet Island, 346 miles to the northwest. He leads the party, breaking the trail and trying to smooth the pressure ridges with a shovel and pick. But the wet snow soaks the men’s tents and sleeping bags and slows progress considerably. After only making it two miles in two days of marching, the plan is abandoned. The men will have to remain camped on a barren sheet of ice, where they must be careful that the ice does not crack and the killer whales do not rise to the surface and tip them into the freezing waters.
  • After 2 months camped on the ice, Shackleton decides to attempt another march. The men once more leave in high spirits, but again, the progress is so painfully slow that the expedition is quickly abandoned. The men will have to camp for four more months as their icy home drifts for hundreds of miles, their lives completely at the mercy of nature. At
    one point, the coast of Antarctica comes within sight, but the way is blocked by ice, and Shackleton is forced to slowly slide away from his goal.
  • After almost six months of living on ice, it finally melts sufficiently for the boats to be launched. The men set off for Elephant Island, which is only 30 miles away. After an arduous day of sailing, Shackleton feels hopeful they are almost there. But when their position is checked, they find they are now 60 miles from their destination—the current has carried them off course.

En route to Elephant Island the men first tried camping on ice floes, but this was abandoned when one cracked open as the men slept, tearing a tent apart and dropping its inhabitant,
still inside his sleeping bag, into the icy waters. Shackleton, ever vigilant about the safety of his men, had sensed something was wrong, and was right on the scene, immediately fishing the man out.
  • For seven days, Shackleton and his men row and sail in small, open boats upon the stormy seas. Blocks of ice threaten their path. Rain and snow squalls soak them though. Snow showers dust them in white. The sun is absent for 17 hours a day, and the temperatures dip below zero in the dark. Sleep comes only in tiny, involuntary snatches, and the men are
    completely exhausted. On the fourth day of the journey, the water supply runs out and the men grow so dehydrated they cannot eat. Elephant Island is spotted, but as they pull close, a strong gale prevents them from landing. For two days they can see their goal but not approach it.
  • When the men finally make land, they dance along the “beach” and let the pebbles dribble through their hands. Despite the fact this was “an inhospitable place, devoid of any vegetation, covered with glaciers and swept by ice laden surges of the South Atlantic Ocean,” the men are overjoyed; this is the first time they’ve been on solid land in 497
    days. But Shackleton realizes that their landing spot is too open to wind and waves, and the men must get back in the boats and move another 7 miles around the island.
  • The men make camp and are greatly relieved, believing they will be able to spend the winter on the island and be picked up by whalers in the spring. But Shackleton realizes there will not be enough food on the island to last that long; he must break the news to the men and get back in the boat to sail another 800 miles to the whaling stations on
    the island of South Georgia.

The launch of the 22-foot James Caird from Elephant Island, the boat that would carry Shackleton 800 miles on the open sea to South Georgia.
  • Shackleton chooses five men to accompany him, loads a boat with a month’s supply of rations, and takes off to their last hope of salvation. South Georgia was only a tiny speck of an island, and with the smallest mistake in navigation, the men would be swept out into the Atlantic Ocean, where the nearest land was thousands of miles away. For 16 days, the men are battered by waves and wind, fierce gales, and the constant spray of freezing ocean water, which chills them to the very marrow of their bones. Water makes its way into nearly every nook in the boat, including their moldering sleeping bags, and has to be continually pumped and bailed out by hand.  The men cannot stand or sit up straight, and with the ship violently pitching back and forth, they must crawl over the stones serving as ballast to move from one part of the boat to another. Their bodies grow sore and bruised; exposure leaves their mouths cracked and swollen. As the men near the island, water rations grow low and have to be cut; desperate dehydration sets in. Land is spotted on the 14th day, but there is nowhere safe to put in. The drinking water is now completely gone. A hurricane-force gale rocks and floods the boat. The men feel the end is near. But the next
    day they finally find a bay in which to put in.

The small boat encountered 80-foot waves.
  • But the men’s journey is far from over. They find themselves on the opposite side of the island from the whaling stations. Shackleton decides to make an overland journey to reach them, an expedition never before attempted, and one that would take the men over steep snow-slopes and glaciers, jagged mountain peaks, and impassable cliffs. But first
    another delay—bad weather keeps the men from starting the march for ten days, an anxiety-filled time as their thoughts continually turn to the men left on Elephant Island.

The island of South Georgia was beautiful and forbidding.
  • When the march begins, Shackleton as always breaks the trail for the other men, trudging through soft, knee-deep snow and across fields of ice. Without flashlights, the darkness hides the deadly crevasses until they are just upon them. Several times the men grow hopeful that they are almost there, only to realize they have gone the wrong way, forcing them to gloomily retrace their steps. For 36 sleepless hours the men march in search of the whaling stations, stopping only for meals.
  • Finally, Shackleton reaches the first signs of civilization he has seen in a year and a half. And still, the setbacks are not over. Shackleton is desperate to rescue the men on Elephant Island as quickly as possible. He makes three attempts to retrieve them, but each time the ship is forced to turn back because ice blocks the way. It takes a fourth ship and four months until Shackleton makes it back to Elephant Island, but he is greeted with the most rewarding sight of all: all 22 of the men he had left behind, alive, waving from the beach.

Hope. Progress. Crushing setback. Hope. Progress. Crushing setback. This was Shackleton’s reality for a year and a half. Such a string of endless disappointments might have made a lesser man want to curl up and die. But not Shackleton. Although he had moments where the weight of the situation sat heavily upon his shoulders, he would always shake off the gloom and resiliently move forward once more; his manly spirit could not be defeated.

This was true from his first setback to his last.

While the Endurance was trapped in ice, the ship’s captain, Frank Arthur Worsley, said of the man everyone called “The Boss:”

“Shackleton’s spirits were wonderfully irrepressible considering the heartbreaking reverses he has had to put up with and the frustration of all his hopes for this year at least. One would think he had never a care on his mind & he is the life & soul of half the skylarking and fooling in the ship.”

No matter what befell him, Shackleton remained of good cheer and always found reasons to laugh. Even on the soul-crushing boat ride to South Georgia, Worsley remembered him laughing. And on the arduous 36 hour hike to the whaling stations, Shackleton could still earnestly say, “laughter was in our hearts.”

And here is the mark of a real leader: the worse things got, the more cool and collected Shackleton became. Worsley remembered that Shackleton could sometimes be irritable when the going was good and he could afford it, “but never when things were going badly and we were up against it.”

How did Shackleton maintain his resilience amidst trials that would have made other men crumble? He concentrated not on the things that couldn’t be altered and weren’t under his control, but on what he could do.

After the Endurance sank, Worsley remembered that Shackleton was:

“bitterly disappointed, as sorely grieved as I was myself, and he let me get a glimpse of his mind when he said, sadly, one day: “It looks as though we shan’t cross the Antarctic Continent after all.” He paused, and then squaring his shoulders, added cheerfully, ‘It’s a pity, but that cannot be helped. It is the men that we have to think about.’”

And for the rest of the journey, that is essentially all he focused on, finding his strength in a service and a cause greater than his own ambitions.

To read the rest of this amazing story click here.

Gabby Gifford: Leadership in Action

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

Watching this amazing woman return to Congress during these contentious and dreary days of haggling sent a beam of light through the room where the polarization seems to never end.

Her blond hair is darkened and cut short; she is extremely thin and with minimal make-up, yet, beautiful in her simplicity. She is a walking miracle.

I can only wonder what her presence means to those she has worked with. I watched the replay of her waving and nodding and for a few moments attempted to walk in her shoes. I began to wonder if I would be capable of the tedious climb she has maneuvered and continues since that gruesome day in Tucson so many months ago.

Gifford is a model of tenacity. Nancy Pelosi pointed to the recuperating lady and said she is a model for our daughters. I concur. Yet, there are others. We sadly still seem to put the celebrity of those who make noise for no reason front and center. The Snookies and Gosselins of reality television are there. How many mothers can point to the meaningless characters on the reality shows and then point to our daughters and say “not on my watch?”

We need to keep people of courage and dignity front and center as models for our young. Who would you put there with Congresswoman Gifford?

Apples, Apple Trees and Leadership

Monday, July 25th, 2011

 

The scandals that are impacting our planet have vast ramifications and now is the time to dig deeply into the cave of the unconscious, illuminating some of the darker, dusty corners where the patterns of power handed through the generations sit and if not brought to consciousness are simply repeated and repeated. This is a good article and the beginning of a dialogue. I responded and I’d love to hear what you have to say.

Responsibility + leadership = anything but funny.

By Steven Adubato

Responsibility is a funny thing. So is leadership. When the two come together, it can be anything but funny.

Consider the case of Rupert Murdoch and his son James who lead the massive media empire known as News Corp. They testified Tuesday before Parliament regarding an increasingly embarrassing scandal involving revelations of cell phone hacking of over 4,000 people — from stars to  crime victims and their families — for inside information.

 

Further, there are allegations that News Corp. journalists had paid  police for confidential information for the now-defunct News of the  World tabloid in England, which has led to the resignations of London’s  police commissioner as well as Scotland Yard’s assistant commissioner.

As scandals go, this is one of the ugliest and potentially most  devastating an organization can face. Rupert Murdoch has been a master  visionary and leader in the evolution of News Corp. The organization  makes tons of money, and many of its brands are at the top of the media  food chain.

Clearly, Murdoch and his son were advised by lawyers and communication experts on what to say and what not to say.

The basic message communicated was that their organization is so big  and that News of the World represented a tiny percentage of the overall  corporate pie that neither could be expected to know, much less be  responsible for, the actions of some rogue employees.

When Murdoch was asked if he was in any way responsible for this  mess, he said he was “shocked” to learn of it and that while it was the ”most humble day of my life” he argued that ultimately the
responsibility should land on some unnamed employees who “behaved  disgracefully and betrayed the company and me. And it’s for them to  pay.” Then he said perhaps he lost sight of the News of the World  “because it was so small in the general frame of our company.” Rupert  Murdoch said he would not accept “ultimate responsibility” for what had  happened and neither would his son James.

When it comes to leadership, whether a CEO knows about something or  not, he or she is ultimately responsible for the actions of every  employee in the organization. If a leader doesn’t know that those  employees are involved in unethical and potentially illegal activities,  it doesn’t necessarily make the CEO legally or criminally liable, but  they are no doubt responsible for putting the person in the position of  responsibility and/or not monitoring the situation more closely. They  are responsible to communicate effectively by asking the right questions
and demanding the right answers.

Further, if a leader does know that those working for him or her are  engaged in destructive activities and does nothing to stop it or  attempts to cover it up, it’s even worse. Two words — Richard Nixon.  What so many leaders refuse to understand is whether you do something  wrong or not, you are responsible and, yes, accountable.

Leaders often confuse the words “blame” or “guilt” with more  appropriate words like “responsibility” and “accountability.” Forget  about who is to blame. I understand legal advice intended to minimize  your potential liability in court. But what lawyers don’t understand is  that their clients can refuse to accept responsibility, but it still  won’t stop the lawsuits. They are going to happen anyway. Yet, by  refusing to accept responsibility, a leader is seriously damaged — and  so, in turn, is the organization’s public reputation and brand.

How leaders communicate can make or break them and their  organizations. So when a leader says he isn’t “responsible” for what  happens in his organization, nothing good happens.

Credit and praise are supposed to be pushed down, while  responsibility gets pushed up. When that equation gets reversed, chaos  and confusion are bound to occur.

Steve Adubato speaks and coaches on leadership and communication  and is the author of “Make the Connection” and his new book, “You are the Brand.” Visit his website at stand-deliver.com or e-mail him at sadubato@aol.com.

Leadership and Faeries

Friday, July 15th, 2011

Superfood FaeriesWhen my daughters were little kids I did what moms do, I thought about what they would be when they grew up. Oh I envisioned all sorts of careers and family configurations. And then, like a smart mother, I decided their fates were best left to them.

 

My younger daughter Julie played with dolls from the minute she could hold one. She took our cat and dressed it in a diaper and pink cap, she drew pictures of happy families going on vacations, she loved being a girly girl.

 
Her older sister Mikayla was the artist who painted and wrote and sculpted and created vision after vision of new planets with other worldly characters.

 

There is something to this nature part along with nurture that is fascinating to watch. Julie is a great mom of two; a beautiful daughter and son. She closed her business, deciding to be a full time mom till both youngsters are launched in their school careers, and then she will see.

 

Mikayla has other ideas. She has been on a healing journey from a misdiagnosed case of Lyme’s Disease and it has led her to become an advocate of planetary sustainability. She used her talents in the arts and her new found knowledge of how we can sustain health through eating green. Her new website, superfoodfaeiries.com is so Mikayla, simple yet complex, pure yet elegant.
(Do I sound like a mom or what?).

 

That searcher for new lands is in her DNA. In her journey to find the best solution for chronic health problems that came out of lots of camping and a misdiagnosis she has become a voice in the movement to, in her words “be-green and be-live”.

 
I see in my grown daughters the seeds of who they would become in the way they picked toys and preferences when they were, well as tiny as faeries.

Leadership by Indirection

Thursday, July 14th, 2011

Sometimes we can learn by sorting through the lives we see in film. Today, with all the sadness around bullying in schools (and summer camp) it may be a great time to pull out the film “Grease” and watch it with the kids to start a conversation about how to be with each other differently than in a bullying/victim way. I’d love to hear about other films you think may be helpful for families to watch together.

Why a Parent’s Empathy Is Vital for a Bullied Girl — and Why It Often Goes Out the Window” by Rachel Simmons contributor – Huffington Post

When I did the original research for Odd Girl Out, I asked every bullied girl I interviewed to tell me what she needed most from her family. The answer truly surprised me. It wasn’t having the best solutions, calling the school or trying to act like everything was okay.

It was empathy.

Before you say, yeah, yeah, I figured that, hear me out. Now that I’ve been working with parents for a decade, I have seen up close how easy it is for empathy to go out the window. There are two reasons why parents struggle: First, when the alarm bells go off, we want to put out the fire. We assume — understandably — that we can make a child feel better by making her problem go away. Parents are habituated to this from the moment of a child’s birth: feed when they’re hungry, sleep when they’re tired, hold when they cry. We bypass empathy and go straight to the problem solving.

Click here to read the full Huffington Post article.

My Comment:

Bullying or being bullied is a complex relationsh­ip issue that includes both empathy, as the writer suggests, as well as some self delving on the part of the parents, school, or community.

In my book “Don’t Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns that Limit Success” I suggest that behavior patterns (persecuto­r/bully, victim, rescuer, pleaser, martyr, avoider, etc.) come from the triad of family, culture, and crises.

Rather than point fingers at the “bad” one and protect the “victim” we need to create an avenue where there is dialogue that can happen at home that will lead to empowering those who are in this difficult play. A major part is for parents to look back at how they handled the tugs and pull of growing up and if they were the persecutor­/victim/re­scuer. Often just talking about this will help the youngster find new language and motivation to do things differentl­y. Isn’t that what we are all looking for? Better ways to communicat­e and be part of a caring culture?

Our kids can stand on our shoulders if we help them look through the larger lens of a broader system. I suggest that watching “Grease” together and talking about it could be a great way to open the dialogue. Sandy and Rizzo both had to learn to handle the slings and arrows of life in a better way. This helps start the discussion by indirectio­n and has helped many families.

Sylvia Lafair president Creative Energy Options (CEO Inc.)

GUTSY GIRL to GUTSY WOMAN

Wednesday, July 13th, 2011
GUTSY Woman

Pauline "Gutsy Gal"

We are thrilled with the continuing changes that have started since we launched the GUTSY Women Weekend Retreat in May.

 

Not knowing what to expect a nurse from Philadelphia entered The Country Place Retreat and Conference Center filled with anticipation yet, no real expectations. She just knew that the name of the program had a punch she couldn’t resist.

Then the weekend started. We went way back; way, way back to when our ancestors were the hunters and gatherers. Hey did you know that females have a greater ability to see the color red than men do? Want to know why? It’s because as gatherers women had to find the ripest berries to bring to the table.

Not to be left outside the color wheel, men see the color blue better. Why? The thinking is because as the hunters they were always happy when the sky was blue or they were on the lookout for a stream of water, clear water that would have a blue tint to it.

 

Then we moved to present time where we saw how most little girls learned what it means to “play nicely and behave”.  The pleaser pattern showed its head early on for females who mostly wanted to be popular.

 
Pauline, our nurse without expectations, began her own personal journey to get in touch with the GUTSY GIRL that had been dormant for years. She was able to see how family, culture, and crises formed her behavior patterns and quickly, in the blink of an eye as they say, she got in touch with the child who was spunky, curious, and well……GUTSY.

 
She recently sent us a picture of little Pauline with a smiling grown up Pauline and a thank you note for the fun time she had connecting the two parts of herself.

 
And that’s what GUTSY is about, giving ourselves the option to explore ourselves as leaders and really get into the groove, cause girls just want to have fun!

 
Join us for the next GUTSY WEEK END August 5-7 at The Country Place. And you men out there….give your gal a treat and surprise her with this week end. Promise, you will get the benefits for ever and ever and ever!

How Leaders Can Help Trauma Survivors

Monday, July 11th, 2011

Barbara Barski CarrowIt is becoming a common experience. The winds roar into town and sweep up everything in its path.  Waters race to new heights and swallow homes, cars and sometimes people. Even sand storms, once the province of faraway African deserts are here, in our own Southwest, bite the face and sting the eyes and make travel impossible.
There seems to be fear everywhere; the worry about drunk drivers, rapists, burglars who have no concern about who gets hurt and maimed.

 
There may be a short time to heal and grieve, to stay with relatives and friends.  Yet, at some point everyone who has been in a traumatic situation returns to work. Is it business as usual?

 
Dr. Barbara Barski-Carrow has written a book to help managers and co-workers find a better way to help those who have suffered a traumatic situation and then must return to their cubicle or office and get going once again.

There is often an uncomfortable silence, a moment of awkward small talk and then the hope that emotional traumas can be ignored and pushed under the rug. Not so says Dr. Barski-Carrow. The situation happened, it is real and if ignored it becomes like a sore that continues to fester.

In her groundbreaking book “When Trauma Survivors Return to Work” she helps managers and employees understand what to do and say to help the transition back to work a more caring and humane one.

 
The workplace can be designed so that there is a sense of safety returning to work. Research indicates that it is best if traumatic situations can be talked about rather than stuffed way deep down. I saw that first hand when I was in New Orleans three weeks after Katrina to help employees of the Neill Corporation talk about their losses, huts and fears. It made a difference.

 
Dr. Barski-Carrow’s book  shows how to set up a Study Circle and how to offer a helping hand to trauma survivors. This is an important book for managers; it should be on everyone’s book shelf. There is no organization that has not or will not face some form of employee trauma. This is a book about preparedness. it is also a book about human compassion and caring. it’s what the world needs now more than ever before.

Sarah Palin, Communists, and What it Means to be Exceptional

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

The following article is one to sink our teeth into and really look at what a word really means. We are going to hear tons about “American Exceptionalism” as the campaign heats up. We have an opportunity to question the rhetoric rather than blindly accept the slogans and chants. This is a great one to start with. Hey, if you think you are exceptional, you may want to dig down and really figure out why. In my mind we are all exceptional just by the fact we are here on planet earth. Exceptionalism, and exceptional are ego words that can do more harm than good. Let me know what you think, especially if you exceptionally disagree with me!

USA 3.0 by Harry Shearer, contributor, Huffington Post

LONDON — As I write this I’m flying back to America, specifically New Orleans, to celebrate July 4 by watching fireworks over the Mississippi River. I say that right up here at the top to establish my Yank bonafides. In addition, my parents sought out this country as a refuge (one denied, it should be noted, to many of their equally desperate compatriots), so I’ve never stopped being grateful that, at least for them, for that special moment, the golden door was open.

But we’re three trillion dollars down, the latest reports say, in trying to — to what? Protect ourselves? Export freedom? Make the world safe for our oil interests? It’s hard to know. This America 2.0 would be impossible for the Founders to recognize, even with folks running around with the banner of the Tea Party. After all, the Founders, slave-owners mostly, wouldn’t see themselves in Michele Bachmann’s characterization. Nor would they recognize a country that thinks nation-building in the graveyard of empires is the spunky little republic they established.

Click Here to read the full article.

My Response:
Thanks for suggesting that we look at that ego based word “exception­al” or in this case, “exception­alism”. Interestin­gly enough, that word was first used by members of the American Communist Party in the 1920′s (Let’s pause while Sarah Palin gags!!). What the communists thought set America apart was its abundance of natural resources (yes to that), it’s absence of rigid class distinctio­ns (huh) and the possibilit­y it could avoid the need to use war to keep itself strong (comments anyone).

In my work as an executive coach I come across way too many leaders who are stuck feeling and thinking they are exceptiona­l and sadly what that translates to is “being above an ethical code of conduct”.

We have to thank the conservati­ves on the right and our communist brethren of old for keeping the image of American exceptiona­lism alive. And thanks to Harry for putting the term under a microscope­.

 

Inner Freedom

Friday, July 1st, 2011

SellingWhen we had a facilitators meeting to talk about our  “product” that powerful program now in its tenth year, Total Leadership Connections, we looked at the core of what we are “selling” from many vantage points.

Getting to essence, like Estee Lauder doesn’t really just sell perfume and make-up, they sell sensuality. Nike, not just sneakers, they sell performance. Porsche is more than a car, it is success.

Okay, so what happens when someone completes TLC? What do they get? For starts they get a good dose of leadership possibilities. They have a chance to discuss what this amorphous concept means in great detail and to look at many of the great leaders who have made impact around the world.

Then there is the time spent looking at themselves, how they, as individuals grew into who they are today. Then they learn to really think about the complexities of being part of a system, something rarely taught in this culture of rugged individualism. finally in session four it is about putting it all together to take a next step to manifests a deep and important desire; a new look at what is truly wanted and needed for real success.

Fast forward months or even years and the feedback we get is consistent and often amazing. What the longest standing aspects of TLC, the aspects of this program that take everyone through the better and the bitter times is FREEDOM.

Over and over people tell us they have been able to navigate rough seas without losing their strength of conviction. Over and over we are told that what used to “push their buttons” is stale and old and they can stand steady and stay calm when others are coming apart at the seams. Over and over there are stories of going into the woods where confusion reigns and coming out more capable and comfortable with themselves.

So during this long week- end to rest, relax, recuperate, ruminate, take this time to celebrate the powerful outer freedom we take as our birthright, and think about what inner freedom means to you.