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GUTSY GIRL to GUTSY WOMAN

Wednesday, July 13th, 2011
GUTSY Woman

Pauline "Gutsy Gal"

We are thrilled with the continuing changes that have started since we launched the GUTSY Women Weekend Retreat in May.

 

Not knowing what to expect a nurse from Philadelphia entered The Country Place Retreat and Conference Center filled with anticipation yet, no real expectations. She just knew that the name of the program had a punch she couldn’t resist.

Then the weekend started. We went way back; way, way back to when our ancestors were the hunters and gatherers. Hey did you know that females have a greater ability to see the color red than men do? Want to know why? It’s because as gatherers women had to find the ripest berries to bring to the table.

Not to be left outside the color wheel, men see the color blue better. Why? The thinking is because as the hunters they were always happy when the sky was blue or they were on the lookout for a stream of water, clear water that would have a blue tint to it.

 

Then we moved to present time where we saw how most little girls learned what it means to “play nicely and behave”.  The pleaser pattern showed its head early on for females who mostly wanted to be popular.

 
Pauline, our nurse without expectations, began her own personal journey to get in touch with the GUTSY GIRL that had been dormant for years. She was able to see how family, culture, and crises formed her behavior patterns and quickly, in the blink of an eye as they say, she got in touch with the child who was spunky, curious, and well……GUTSY.

 
She recently sent us a picture of little Pauline with a smiling grown up Pauline and a thank you note for the fun time she had connecting the two parts of herself.

 
And that’s what GUTSY is about, giving ourselves the option to explore ourselves as leaders and really get into the groove, cause girls just want to have fun!

 
Join us for the next GUTSY WEEK END August 5-7 at The Country Place. And you men out there….give your gal a treat and surprise her with this week end. Promise, you will get the benefits for ever and ever and ever!

Sarah Palin, Communists, and What it Means to be Exceptional

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

The following article is one to sink our teeth into and really look at what a word really means. We are going to hear tons about “American Exceptionalism” as the campaign heats up. We have an opportunity to question the rhetoric rather than blindly accept the slogans and chants. This is a great one to start with. Hey, if you think you are exceptional, you may want to dig down and really figure out why. In my mind we are all exceptional just by the fact we are here on planet earth. Exceptionalism, and exceptional are ego words that can do more harm than good. Let me know what you think, especially if you exceptionally disagree with me!

USA 3.0 by Harry Shearer, contributor, Huffington Post

LONDON — As I write this I’m flying back to America, specifically New Orleans, to celebrate July 4 by watching fireworks over the Mississippi River. I say that right up here at the top to establish my Yank bonafides. In addition, my parents sought out this country as a refuge (one denied, it should be noted, to many of their equally desperate compatriots), so I’ve never stopped being grateful that, at least for them, for that special moment, the golden door was open.

But we’re three trillion dollars down, the latest reports say, in trying to — to what? Protect ourselves? Export freedom? Make the world safe for our oil interests? It’s hard to know. This America 2.0 would be impossible for the Founders to recognize, even with folks running around with the banner of the Tea Party. After all, the Founders, slave-owners mostly, wouldn’t see themselves in Michele Bachmann’s characterization. Nor would they recognize a country that thinks nation-building in the graveyard of empires is the spunky little republic they established.

Click Here to read the full article.

My Response:
Thanks for suggesting that we look at that ego based word “exception­al” or in this case, “exception­alism”. Interestin­gly enough, that word was first used by members of the American Communist Party in the 1920′s (Let’s pause while Sarah Palin gags!!). What the communists thought set America apart was its abundance of natural resources (yes to that), it’s absence of rigid class distinctio­ns (huh) and the possibilit­y it could avoid the need to use war to keep itself strong (comments anyone).

In my work as an executive coach I come across way too many leaders who are stuck feeling and thinking they are exceptiona­l and sadly what that translates to is “being above an ethical code of conduct”.

We have to thank the conservati­ves on the right and our communist brethren of old for keeping the image of American exceptiona­lism alive. And thanks to Harry for putting the term under a microscope­.

 

Leadership Lessons: Tackle the Big Stuff

Monday, June 20th, 2011

I recently got pulled into some “news” because I took Kate Gosselin to small claims court for ignoring payment of services rendered. It is a sad statement of how some people behave and ignore being true to their word. However, there are far more vital issues than Kate Gosselin and I am not going to participate in taking the case further.

Here is what really matters and how I believe the media could do a better job of taking the high road than worrying about media made “celebrities” and tackle what reality television should and could be about: making our world a more cooperative and caring one!

 

Ocean Report: Risk of Marine Extinctions Unprecedented in Human History

By: Kelly Rigg on Huff Green

A “deadly trio” of carbon-related ocean impacts (ocean acidification, warming, and oxygen depletion) may lead to global marine extinctions on a scale unprecedented in human history. This is one of the main conclusions of a new report by an international panel of marine scientists (see my previous post Ocean of Trouble for more details).

The panel’s main findings were summarized as follows:

  • The combination of stressors on the ocean is creating the conditions associated with every previous major extinction of species in Earth’s history.

Further:

  • The speed and rate of degeneration in the ocean is far faster than anyone has predicted.
  • Many of the negative impacts previously identified are greater than the worst predictions.
  • Although difficult to assess because of the unprecedented speed of change, the first steps to globally significant extinction may have begun with a rise in the extinction threat to marine species such as reef-forming corals.

2011-06-20-NOAAOceangravitymap.jpgNOAA Public DomainAccording to one of the scientists, Professor Jelle Bijma of the Alfred Wegener Institute for Polar and Marine Research, “the current carbon perturbation is unprecedented in the Earth’s history because of the high rate and speed of change. Acidification is occurring faster than in the past 55 million years…” He also pointed out that, “Most, if not all, of the five global mass extinctions in Earth’s history carry the fingerprints of the main symptoms of global carbon perturbations.”

In this case, however, it is us doing the perturbing. Humans are currently conducting what amounts to a radical geo-engineering of the Earth’s life-support system. Geo-engineering is defined as “the deliberate large-scale manipulation of the planetary environment.” Knowing what we do about the relationship between our excessive fossil fuel-driven CO2 emissions and climate change, we can no longer pretend that our impact on the planetary environment is accidental.

So it is with some irony that the release of this report coincides with a two-day meeting of IPCC experts to discuss geo-engineering as part of a “portfolio of response options to anthropogenic climate change.”

Generally speaking, geo-engineering schemes fall into two categories: those which aim to lower temperature (think sunblock, but on a planetary scale), and those which aim to get CO2 out of the atmosphere (such as the ‘fertilization’ of the ocean with iron to increase CO2-absorbing plankton).

Whenever I hear of these sorts of schemes, I think of a Dr. Seuss book I used to read as a child — The Cat in the Hat Comes Back. The self-indulgent cat gorges himself on pink cake in the bath, leaving behind a rosy ring in the tub. Every effort by his team of helper cats to clean up the mess simply causes the stain to spread further, until eventually the entire house and snowy yard has turned into a sickening sea of pink. Just in the nick of time, before the parents come home and the kids get busted, the tiniest cat pulls a out a magical “Voom” from his hat which miraculously cleans up the mess.

If only we had a Voom to clean up the twin problems of climate change and ocean meltdown, and we could put all those fossil fuels back in the hat. But since we don’t and we can’t, we must face three inevitable conclusions:

  1. We need to end our 200-year-old addiction to fossil fuels, a habit which is dumping enormous quantities of CO2 into the atmosphere. In 2010 we set a record — emitting 30.6 gigatonnes of CO2. By conserving energy, using efficiency technologies, and fully replacing fossil fuels with clean renewable sources we can kick the habit. There are many scenarios that prove this is not some utopian vision, but a feasible undertaking that could be accomplished in the next few decades. It’s a no-brainer — the transformation is already underway, and lots of jobs are being created as a result. But governments must stop dragging their feet on measures which could rapidly accelerate this new energy revolution.
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  3. The best way to get existing CO2 out of the atmosphere is to increase the CO2-absorption capacity of natural ecosystems — both on land and at sea. This means halting deforestation and overfishing, stopping the production and discharge of dangerous pollutants, and preventing habitat degradation, to name just a few examples. Perhaps the IPCC experts meeting will identify new methods of removing CO2 from the air without risking further harm to the environment.
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  5. As for geo-engineering, we can rule out right off the bat that any sunblock scheme will save the day, because these do nothing to address ocean acidification. Other schemes that tamper with Earth systems risk Cat in the Hat consequences which we have neither the knowledge nor the wisdom to oversee. It’s not for nothing that the parties to the Convention on Biological Diversity agreed to a de facto moratorium on geo-engineering (PDF).

 

As for me, I can’t decide what’s scarier: men in lab coats playing out their sci-fi fantasies (at least that’s how I picture them), or the fact that there are top scientists who believe we may reach a point when such schemes will actually be needed to save human civilization.

What do you think…? Should we continue our indulgent fossil fuel habit assuming that scientists will actually find the “Vroom” before it’s too late? Or do we just say ‘No’ to fossil fuels?

Follow Kelly Rigg on Twitter: www.twitter.com/kellyrigg

 

My comment on the above post:

“Great post! Don’t we all wish for the magic formulas of that impish Cat in the Hat? We (and sadly that  mean most of us) tend to hope that the hero will come along and save us at the last minute. This is where the behavior patterns of the avoider and denier are most obvious; the hero will do the hard work, not us!
My question is how can the media work for the greater good and use this platform to show tons of  stories of transforma­tion about good people working together for more than money? We can all be the hero. I believe that there would be a surge of goodwill and real effort if visions of transforma­tion were front and center day after day instead of the dreadful barage of make believe looting, shooting, and killing.  Hey, The Cat in the Hat could be the cheerleade­r for all of us to participat­e in solving important human issues with integrity and make real magic happen. Dr. Seuss would have approved.

 

Do leaders play short stop, as a corner outfielder or both?

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

Leadership Success

As I was growing up, I always loved sitting down and watching baseball with my father. It is considered to be the all-American pastime. It was not only a favorite pastime of mine to be able to spend time with my father, but I was in awe of the sport itself and the amazing structure of discipline needed from all of the players and coaches involved.  At the time, it was unfathomable to me to understand how all of the team members worked together to accomplish such an amazing feat of winning a game.  Every team member had to have a time, a place, a position, a process, or a call, etc., and know and understand the coaches’ expectations, in order for the game to be played effectively.

Baseball not only brings people together, but it can be played in empty lots, or in organized teams, it can be played by all ages, and you can play whether you are an amateur or a professional.  Much like that of the organization in which you work, you should feel comfortable playing the game in any area of your business, whether you are good at it or not, and no matter what age.  With the help of your leadership skills, your colleagues should feel the same, as well.  But I often ask myself whether, as a leader, am I playing short stop, or playing in the outfield?  What does this mean to me and my business and why?

If you think about the short stop position, the person in this position must be the most agile person on the team.  Not only do they cover multiple other positions within the infield, but they must have the strongest arm on the team in order to be able to throw a far distance to make other players get out at first base.  They also must be the cut-off man to any of the other positions that play around him, or behind him.  A short stop position must have fielding prowess because you never know what type of ball, fast or slow, or how high or low, you are going to need to catch.  You never know who you will be throwing to, or how quickly you will need to throw the ball back!

As an outfielder, you catch the longest driven and highest balls hit to you.  They typically play behind the six other positions within the infield.  Sometimes, they are considered to be the slower and less defensive of the other players.  However, they too, must also have a strong throwing arm in order to get the ball back in the field for the play to continue.  Many of the best power hitters in baseball play in the outfield, where they do not have as constant involvement in fielding plays as other positions.

Although both positions are both important to the organization of the sport itself, one position is looked at as stronger than the other; that is the short stop position.  As a leader, are you playing short stop in your organization and catching all of the issues first, and succeeding by dampening the concerns with your resolutions?  If I am a leader, I must be active and engaging in every department.  I must be alert as to what is going on in all areas of my organization/business, not just my own area/department.  I must be athletic enough to overcome any situation that comes my way.  I have to be buoyant enough to bounce back from tough situations, and clever and dexterous enough to come up with a plan of action that can be executed in a quick and timely manner.  As a “short stop” leader, I have to be easy-going as much as possible, yet energetic and positive at all times.  Never let them see you sweat, right?  If I am not prompt at handling what is to come, and quick enough to determine what is needed to accomplish a specific task to enable my team to work more effectively and productively, then we will not win  the game.  With this being said, a short stop leader must be vigorous, swift, and sharp enough to handle situations promptly and to continue showing their leadership skills vivaciously enough to win the game at all times.

If all of the situations that occur in my business are constantly being diverted to my outfield, then I may be a power hitter to bounce back from the situation after numerous attempts to make the situation better, but I may not always win the play due to being less defensive and as supple as I need to be.  If I want to constantly try and catch my problems after they have passed numerous other players on my team, then can I actually lead with the quickest and most defensive strategy that is needed to make my business happen?  Although I do need to play in this position, in order to know how my team works and to understand the dynamics behind the plays that are thrown my way, I feel as if a leader needs to have the attributes of the short stop position to be able to stand as a dynamic leader.

Stand back and look at your team and how each person affects the drive and success of your business.  Then take a look at your leadership style and how you fit into the “field”.  Do you look at issues and attack them quickly and are you steadfast in your approach?  Or do you delegate all issues and concerns to someone else in a position that does not have the drive or stamina to handle the issue as successfully as you would?  Do you play as a “short stop” leader, or as a “corner outfielder” leader? Or do you consider yourself to be the only player and you play all positions at all times?  If you do not play either position as a leader who plays in these positions on your team and who do you rely on the most?  People look for meaning and purpose in their life and work in order to find fulfillment. Without a clear purpose we wander from position to position trying to find the right fit. Most people place more value on meaning and significance than they do on pay and benefits. Consider this, I have read over and over again that there tends to be a greater number of people who leave their jobs because of poor leadership.

The above guest post was written by Teresa Uranga-MSSL, MS Ed.

Born and raised in Tampa, FL and moved to the Orlando, FL area when I first moved away from home to pursue my pathway to adulthood and college.  I attended the University of Central Florida for what seemed to be an interminable five years.  My dream, or what I thought was my dream, was to become a Speech Pathologist within the public school system.  My mother/coach/mentor/best friend has been a teacher for 36+ years.  Her biggest complaint was about the children who had numerous speech impediments and learning disabilities towards comprehension, which led to many conversations about whole school curriculum pros and cons.  So, there I was; on my martyr path to correct this issue within the school system.  And then I hit the college sophomore brick wall.  I had to try and live like an adult, pay bills, live on my own, and try and make ends meet in all other ways.  So how was I going to do this, when the brick wall was telling me otherwise?

I went back to school and obtained two Master degrees one in Strategic Leadership and the other in Training and Performance Improvement.  I am also going back to school currently to obtain a Post Masters Certificate in Teaching and Instruction and pursuing my Return on Investment Certification through the ROI Institute.

I started my own business as a Training and Performance Consultant for small start-up businesses, and driving their owners/managers to understand which employee should be hired and placed in which position, not based on what they want to do, but truly what they are good at doing based on their internal strengths that drive them.

When I am not consulting, I am usually networking, researching and writing.

Often I think that few people can relate to my obsessive-compulsive attention to detail (my intense desire to want to continue to learn and drive others to do the same, at all times), but put simply: I enjoy learning.

http://hstrial-TeresaMUranga.homestead.com/index.html

www.teresauranga.wordpress.com

Pay It Forward Leadership

Thursday, May 26th, 2011

Everyone loves to be in the presence of charismatic people. They are lots of fun and there is always a hope that the magic they have will rub off just by being with them. Yet, underneath the charm is often a bloated ego that leaves little room for others to grow and lead. The following article is food for thought so please respond to my answer. Do you or did you have a boss who gets “antsy” if you or anyone else wants to steal the spotlight? I’d love to use your answers for a new book (not yet titled) about the downside of working with super stars.

Is Your Ego Getting in the Way of Your Business? By John Warrillow writer and contributor to BNet.

It feels good to solve customers’ problems. They shower you with praise, and you get the satisfaction of feeling needed.The ego boost can be addictive — I know it was for me.

The problem is, the more your customers need you and ask for you personally, the harder it is to grow your business, and — in the long run — the less valuable your company will be.

In my consulting business, I found myself in the role of fixing clients’ problems personally. It felt good at the time, and it certainly paid well, but I soon realized I wasn’t building anything of long-term value.

I had to get out of the business of solving individual customers’ problems, but I found it hard to train others in what had taken me years to learn.

Intellectually, I knew I needed to document my experiences and coach others, but a little part of me still liked the ego boost of being someone’s savior — even if only for a minute or two.

If you’re having trouble growing your business, take a long, hard look in the mirror because your desire to feel needed may be what’s holding you back.

To read the full article, click here.

 

Leadership Development: What Do We Really Want to Develop?

Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

What do we learn from competition? Is this where we get our self-esteem? What do we do when we lose? How do we handle setbacks? What does it mean when the mantra is “winning is everything”? Now in the legal system, Lance Armstrong does not say he took anything to make him able to go faster, to be stronger. All he said is “I did not test positive”. Is that like Bill Clinton’s famous refrain “I did not have sexual relations with that woman?”.

We need to start asking the hard questions before there will not be anyone left who is living life for the joy of it, win or lose, just for the delight of growing and learning. Let me know what you think.

The Armstrong Enigma by James Moore, contributor to the Huffington Post.

“If you live in Austin, you can almost breathe the Lance Armstrong legend in the air. Everybody intimately knows the tale and its grand parameters. Who has such athletic accomplishments; especially after cancer? His greatness and, indeed, humility were made even more manifest when he established a foundation to help in the global quest to end cancer. We have in our midst, many Texans believe, an individual who is exceptional in character and achievement.

The Armstrong profiled by interviews and narrative in the 60 Minutes report on CBS is difficult, if not impossible, for many people in Austin to process. The arc of Lance’s story has been always upward from the time he was pronounced cancer free. He got healthier, faster, fitter, wealthier, and more magnanimous with time. Every chapter of this American tale was written with bold strokes through nothing more than focus and determination.

There are now, however, several of Armstrong’s teammates during the period of his ride to glory, who are sketching out an anti-hero. The young man they describe thinks of regulations and rules as opponents to be defeated. Each of Armstrong’s teammates, meanwhile, is being attacked for a lack of credibility, and, in fact, their own confessions about doping turn them into liars. Tyler Hamilton, Floyd Landis, Stephen Swart, Frankie Andreu, and, if CBS is correct, George Hincapie, were all part of a deception to use performance-enhancing drugs (PEDs) to win. The points of attack are pretty easily established for Armstrong’s legal and public relations team.

But is Lance the only person telling the truth? Are most of his teammates jealous and petty and pathological liars? They seem to have created an alternative reality with their words.

Armstrong is dismissing Hamilton, as he has other accusers, for lacking credibility. The level of detail described by Lance’s former teammate, however, is difficult to ignore even for casual observers of this controversy. Hamilton, who appeared drawn and a bit emotionally tortured during the taping, told of flying in a private jet to Spain with Lance where they were both transfused with their own red blood cells, a process called blood doping, which improves endurance. He also claimed Armstrong shipped him drugs, that they both put drops of testosterone oil into each other’s mouths after a race, and that he was in the room during conversations with a controversial doctor who was teaching them how and when to use PEDs. Lunch bags of goodies, according to Hamilton, were given to riders that had earned their way into the inner circle. He also said he saw Armstrong use EPO and indicated there was a program driven by Armstrong and the team coach Johan Bruyneel. A similar description was provided by Swart to Sports Illustrated. Regardless, Tyler Hamilton either has a very active imagination or he has opened the door to ignominy for an American icon.”

To read the full article, Click Here.

Leadership Lessons: Many Ways to Play a Situation

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

Im SorryInteresting article about when to take the lead and when to stay in the background. Let me know what you think.

 

2 Words Every CEO Hates to Say

by Kimberly Weisul

Why is it so hard for the rich and powerful to apologize? Because the corporate apology is no ordinary apology. Upset your customers badly enough, and they’ll demand not just a mea culpa, but some kind of restitution. Which can get awfully expensive.

So executives are loath to say anything that implies legal responsibility, and taking responsibility for one’s actions is, well, the key to a real apology. “I deeply regret that the loss of life” is not the same as saying “I’m sorry that my company caused the deaths of 5,000.” Tokyo Electric Power Company, facing a failing and dangerous nuclear power plant, was  left issuing expressions of sympathy that only sound like apologies. Such as this from Tepco CEO Masataka Shimizu: “We believed we had built nuclear plants that could withstand natural disasters, but in the end this situation arose, and for that I am truly sorry.”

Of course, some other executives have done far worse.

Varieties of Change

Monday, April 11th, 2011

We have so many opportunities to make change every day. Our clothes, our thoughts, our jobs. However, there is a deeper aspect of change that takes getting really still and listening to that small inner voice we so often neglect. This excellent guest blog is perfect for all leaders and leaders in training to check internally to make sure you are in the right place.

This guest blog is written by: Catherine Pastille, Ph.D., the Founder and Executive Director of The Global Awareness Initiative, LLC.  She currently serves as Adjunct Asst. Professor of Management at Providence College and as a lecturer in the School of Business of the University of Massachusetts Boston.  Catherine offers workshops and executive coaching in Staying Vital™ and will publish an e-book on the topic in October, 2011. 

Website:  http://www.stayingvital.com

 

Staying Vital: The Hidden Challenge 

Life Changing Behavior In a recent project, I asked management students to take a month and make a meaningful change in their lives. Most students chose to change a health –   related behavior such as exercising more, changing their diet, or getting more sleep. The first week produced measurable change in their lives.  The second week happened to coincide with a busy test period. As their stress level increased, most of them lost the ability to act on their well-planned intentions.  Some of them wrote  about how they were determined to “tough it out”.  I reminded these students that “toughing it out” is one option;  reassessing our plan and our path to reaching our goals is also a viable alternative.

As I reflect on my students’ experience over the last couple of weeks, I can’t help but see how the habit of putting work demands above the needs of our heart and spirit gets engrained in us from an early age through performance expectations in schools, sports, in college and throughout our career and society.  Is it possible that even while we are doing our best to meet the challenges of our daily work and family responsibilities,  the challenge of meeting the needs of our spirit gets pushed right off our radar screen? Have we become so focused on productivity and performance that the work of staying deeply rooted in the very source of our energy and creativity no longer makes it onto our daily agenda?

Without a sense of vitality – an immediate and deep awareness of the power of the human spirit and our capacity to create with it – we are left with accomplishing our work through force of will.  When we accomplish our goals through sheer willpower we weary more quickly. We feel as if we are just going through the motions day in and day out.  Or we may have to divert a good deal of  energy and attention into keeping ourselves “energized” and “engaged” instead of being able to just put our attention on fully living the moment to the best of our ability. When we focus on cultivating our sense of vitality, our work and responsibilities become the means through which we accomplish our important life tasks.  A focus on staying vital makes it possible to sustain long periods of optimal performance with a sense of ease and stability even in the midst of rapid change and almost continuous high performance demands.

A couple of years ago I went on a silent retreat in which we were allowed to talk only over meals. The monk who sat at my dinner table was asked about why he became a monk. He told a story about how he had a very successful career on Wall Street and then he woke up one day and decided he did not want to live his life with money and time pressure being the center of his thinking and decision making. He wanted to make decisions for his life from his heart and soul.  I want that for me.  I want that for those I teach. I want that for everyone.

To begin to live with a deeper sense of vitality, ask and answer this set of questions whenever you make a choice about how you are going to live, love or work:

  • What do I need to do right now to stay vital?
  • What has to be done in order for those I love to stay vital?
  • What will it take for those I work with, for my organization, for society and for the living world to stay vital?

Oh, and one more thing: before you begin to ask and answer these questions, prepare yourself for a life-changing journey.

The Power of Memories

Monday, April 4th, 2011

Jane Fonda  There have been so many wars since Vietnam, so many disputes and disagreements. Jane Fonda who was a poster child for polarization around the Vietnam war is a grandmother now in her mid 70’s. So, it is fascinating that vets from that grizzley war have expressed anger about Fonda being a keynoter at a leadership conference. What I found powerful in the following article is how memories do stay to haunt us for decades. This is what we teach in our Total Leadership Connections program. The amazing pull the past has on us that can often be carried forward for generations. I am not judging the impact that a photograph of Jane Fonda so many years ago had on men who fought in that war or even if it was the right decision to have another speaker take Fonda’s place. Just that the power of memories is huge.    

 

Fonda: Persona non grata in Nashua

by Joseph Cote

NASHUA – Griffin Dalianis and many other Vietnam War-era veterans haven’t forgotten the photographs that came out of North Vietnam almost 40 years ago.This week, their feelings about those photos, and the woman in them, convinced organizers of a local leadership summit to decide against inviting the woman to town and perhaps inciting Vietnam-era-style protesting.Dalianis, a vocal veteran issues advocate in Nashua, said he “went berserk” when he heard actress, fitness expert and erstwhile antiwar protestor Jane Fonda had been invited to be the keynote speaker at the New Hampshire Women’s Leadership Summit in June. Dalianis immediately started drumming up support for a protest outside the event.Organizers of the summit backed down this week and have replaced Fonda with Pulitzer Prize-nominated journalist and author Fawn Germer.“It was a combination of, one, respect for the veterans and compassion for their sentiments about this, along with our concern because their reactions were rather intense,” said Dr. Annabel Beerel, chairman of the New Hampshire Women’s Leadership Institute board of directors.“We were concerned about our attendees.”Dalianis was a member of the Air Force 1st Special Commando Group, the forerunner to the Air Force’s Special Operations airmen, and was stationed in Vietnam in 1964-65. Two of his brothers served in the war, and one of them, Peter Dalianis, earned two Bronze Stars and three Purple Hearts there. He is buried in Arlington Cemetery, Dalianis said.“It brought me right back to the war,” he said. “I can still close my eyes and picture her on an antiaircraft gun. As far as I was concerned, that was aiding and abetting the enemy. I don’t even like saying her name.”Dalianis said he’s thrilled with the institute’s decision to rescind its invitation to Fonda.“I thought I was going to be a voice in the wind,” he said. “Too many people do not remember the incident. Most Vietnam veterans do.“I’m thrilled, absolutely thrilled, that whoever’s running the program took our feelings about this into consideration.”Beerel said enrollment for the summit has already topped 200 people. She said Fonda was “extremely surprised” by the change. Fonda has had a very different reception at other public appearances, Beerel said.“Of course, she’s faced a lot of this, but she’s not a politician anymore,” Beerel said. “She’s reinvented herself. She’s apologized.“She’s not meeting this reaction in other places. She doesn’t know what to make of it.”Dalianis said while he appreciates the decision to change speakers out of respect for veterans, there was no need to worry about anyone’s safety. He planned to gather with around 100 other veterans and carry American flags and signs outside the conference, which will be held June 10 at Nashua Community College.“It would never have gotten out of hand,” he said. “We’re old men now. This would have been a very peaceful protest, as far as I’m concerned.”Joseph G. Cote can be reached at 594-6415 or jcote@nashuatelegraph.com.

Leadership Lessons: From Ignorance to Knowledge

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

Everyone worth her or his weight in leading goes through lots of ups and downs (the downs seem way too often) in the leadership development growth journey to become fully realized individuals.

Kind of like playing Monopoly, except we don’t strategize for real estate, we have bigger goals in mind. Many of these goals are under the radar and we are not aware of them till we have to backtrack, spend time “in Jail” while other are moving with great determination and we cannot see progress for ourselves.

Once we jump on the leadership express we suddenly find the landscape is not what we expected. We separate from the traditional reality we know and are awakened to great truths. This is super uncomfortable territory for most of us; we have in no way been prepared for this in our educational system. All we know is success is meant to be a straight line from study to acing tests to getting excellent jobs with another straight line to the top of the pyramid. In other words, it is meant to be a smoother ride to owning Park Place.

One of the best contemporary movies to give us some guidelines on what to expect on the leadership journey is The Matrix. Get a copy and even if you have seen it watch it again. In these challenging days we all need to become more astute about what it means to lead, what is being asked of us, how the speed and confusion of changing landscapes (think Japan) impact our day to day lives.

Here is the quick synopsis: The matrix takes place in 1999, it really does seem a century ago. Thomas Anderson is a programmer for a software company by day and a computer hacker names Neo by night. Neo is obsessed, looking for a man named Morpheus who he believes can answer the question haunting him “What is the Matrix”? It is the question that we all strive to answer deep inside ourselves “What is reality”?

This is the question all leaders must ask themselves sooner or later to become the best they can be. It is at the core of all leadership development programs, yet is often left without being tackled because case studies and proper answers are required for recognition as one of the “smart ones”.

In Total Leadership Connections we have taken the road less traveled. We ask our participants to go on the Hero’s Journey. We believe that to be a leader of quality one must first be self-aware and even more importantly PATTERN-AWARE. That requires a deep understand on oneself and also a keen knowledge of how relationships work.

With becoming Pattern-Aware there is power and freedom. To become free, truly free you change yourself and the questions you ask as a leader. You are more interested in values and integrity than in merely the bottom line.

Leadership is a vital path that requires rigor and courage. Take the pattern-aware quiz at www.sylvialafair.com and call us for a free coaching session. Are you willing? Value-driven leadership is what the world needs now!!