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Leadership Challenges for the New Year

Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather?

There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them.

 

What do we want from our leaders to help us with the tides of change?

The following article gives food for thought. So does my response. Enjoy.

What does leadership look like?

Glenn Llopis

Bringing the immigrant perspective to business leaders

Leadership Contrast: Men and Power

Thursday, December 22nd, 2011

 

Lots of deaths of powerful men in the past year. Many have been dictators who had tons of money and little integrity.

 

 

 

Think about these 3 questions:

  1. Ever wonder why we permit these men to “rule” us?
  2. Ever wonder why millions will stay quiet and let those who have found the path to brute power to keep it?
  3. Ever think about how we can make a better difference and make a better world?

Vaclav Havel was an actor, a playwright, an artist. Maybe there is a clue there. The arts are a way to the heart. Even the word eARTh gives us a clue. Expressing oneself through music, movement, painting, poetry, theater touches the deep core of who we are. Maybe, just maybe, we should be finding leaders who have a different kind of power to lead us. Havel had that mysterious and important blend. What about you?

Havel: Hero Of Our Time

Click above to read the article by Barry Wood, Economics Journalist at HuffPost World.

Home Alone?

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

This insightful blog brings up a multitude of questions about active leadership.

What do you do when things are tough and the “kids” are fighting?

Betsy's Page

-This is leadership?  by Betsy Newmark

http://betsyspage.blogspot.com/2011/11/this-is-leadership.html

Real Leadership, Robert Reich, and Ending Apathy

Thursday, November 17th, 2011

The “new” politics is happening. It is a return, or maybe a new turn to participatory human scale democracy. It is what is blossoming all around this country, all around the world. Modern technology is being used for good, not just fun or stimulation. The world is coming together in a new way, and as Robert Reich states, apathy is taking a hike!

The wave of involvement includes local grassroots initiatives, a redefining of power, and a way of getting to the core of issues that impact all of us. This is not about the 99%, it really is about the human desire for reaching potential and being altruistic; helping each other.

The “new’ politics is expressed by an “organic” worldview; it is inclusive rather than exclusive. The balance is between “CARE and DARE” which is the meeting place of male and female ways of thinking and being.

It is in everyone’s nature to care and it is in everyone’s nature to dare, to take risks and make a difference. The evolving worldview that is being shaken loose is seen in the camaraderie of young and elder, diverse folks from diverse backgrounds who no longer are willing to be told what to do and how to live.

The statements from Berkeley California to Manhattan New York are one and the same. We all matter. The perspective is eclectic in detail, yet, generally affirms the human need for far more that material well-being alone.  There is an exciting emphasis on holistic values that are life affirming and involve both inner trust in one’s deep beliefs of connectedness as well as group wisdom that we are all connected and no one wins unless we all do.

This is the core of what we teach in our Total Leadership Connections four session program. Come join us in the new wave of transformational leadership. Our new program begins in March 2012 and promises to be amazing and important at this time in the way the world is turning.

 

The “Inner Game” – 10 Steps That Lead to Success

Tuesday, November 15th, 2011

 The following guest blog by Marty Wolff truly resonates with our view of leadership, it’s equally important to have the business skills and the inner skills to really be an effective leader.  Enjoy his guest blog on the “Inner Game”.

Many of the master teachers have been reminding us that success, both personal and professional is an “inner game”. What happens on the inside will reveal itself on the outside. We have heard these comments from so many wise people over time, yet many of us still don’t understand the power of learning how to make this inner game work for our success.

In this context, success can be defined as achieving a certain tangible or intangible goal. Let’s avoid any detailed definitions of what goals are, let’s suffice it to say a goal is something you want to achieve, a place you want to be, or a state of mind that keeps you calm through good and not so good times.

I believe in the inner game. I have learned about it, practiced it and gained by the implementation of what I have learned. This knowledge has helped me stay on my game both personally and professionally.

So, here are the 10 steps that I believe will help you achieve YOUR success. These steps will also help you maintain a level of desired performance.

  1. Take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you and the actions you take everyday. Don’t blame your spouse, your boss, the weather, the stock market or anything else. No matter what happens, if you have the right frame of mind you will take the right actions to move you to a different and better place.
  2. Read everyday. John Maxwell tells us that our success is the result of our daily agenda. Read something about business, the world, building relationships or other positive literature everyday. Feed your mind just like you feed your body.
  3. Mediate everyday. I have finally discovered the power of meditation. John Assaraf and Jack Canfield convinced me “success leaves clues”. If these two very successful people meditate everyday then it’s good enough for me. The funny thing is, the more my mind is going in circles, the longer I meditate. This takes real discipline on my part. For full disclosure and to keep your expectations in line, I meditate in the morning for any where from 15 to 45 minutes. This practice will help you focus on what is really important.
  4. Plan and take action on a business opportunity or personal goal that will benefit you in 6 to 12 months. Because we are so busy, we tend to let the day’s activities pull us along. That will find us at the day exhausted and with little satisfaction. If you are a business owner or a sales person this is very important. Thinking and planning for something to occur several months out, pulls you toward the goal. It energizes you. And when the time comes, which will come whether you planned or not, you will be so pleased that you set a goal and achieved it.
  5. Send out a gratitude note everyday. There is ample evidence that being grateful to people that you interact with has a positive effect on your thinking. Positive thinking leads to positive behavior, positive behavior leads to positive results.
  6. Work on a proposal everyday. If you don’t have one, create one. In business this is easy. If you do not have an active client you are working on, start to write a proposal on an account you have not even contacted yet, you will see yourself developing a plan to make them a client. For your personal life you may want to plan for a family reunion, a vacation, a new car or anything else you want to have or create 6 to 12 months down the road.
  7. Visualize your success. “See” it in your mind as if it is already accomplished. Athletes do this all the time. Statistics validate that athletes that “see” their success are in fact more successful than their competition.
  8. Exercise. Get physical everyday. For most of us our work days are very sedentary. We sit and work on a computer or some similar work.You need to move around as much as possible during the day. Take a walk at lunch, go to the gym before or after work. Try to get a minimum of 30 minutes vigorous exercise everyday. For me that is a brisk walk just about every morning. I’m describing physical exercise, however it is the “mind game” that gets you moving.
  9. Keep the promises you make to yourself. This practice can jump start your success plan. If you promise yourself to spend specific time with your family, then do it! If you promise yourself to make that extra sales call today, then do it! If you promise yourself you will lose 10 pounds in the next 60 days, then do it! Keep your promises to yourself. This will lead to you being a trusted family member and business associate.
  10. Finally. Affirm your worthiness. If you don’t believe you are worthy or deserve the success you seek, you will not get to where you want to go. If your self esteem needs work, then learn how to think better about yourself. You deserve peace and happiness.

I have been mentored by so many people over the years. They don’t know that, however through books, webinars, white papers, magazines etc. I have tried to learn how to improve. Improvement and excellence is never an accident, you need to work at it everyday. I suggest you pay attention to folks like John Assaraf, Jack Canfield, John Maxwell, Seth Godin, Bob Burg, Febienne Fredrickson, Janet Attwod, and Robin Sharma to name a few.

Good luck on your journey.

Marty is the CEO of Marty Wolff Business Solutions (MWBS). “We help people and their organizations perform better than they ever imagined”. Marty can be reached at marty@martywolffbusinesssolutions.com and his website is http://martywolffbusinesssolutions.com.

 

 

Gabby Gifford: Leadership in Action

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

Watching this amazing woman return to Congress during these contentious and dreary days of haggling sent a beam of light through the room where the polarization seems to never end.

Her blond hair is darkened and cut short; she is extremely thin and with minimal make-up, yet, beautiful in her simplicity. She is a walking miracle.

I can only wonder what her presence means to those she has worked with. I watched the replay of her waving and nodding and for a few moments attempted to walk in her shoes. I began to wonder if I would be capable of the tedious climb she has maneuvered and continues since that gruesome day in Tucson so many months ago.

Gifford is a model of tenacity. Nancy Pelosi pointed to the recuperating lady and said she is a model for our daughters. I concur. Yet, there are others. We sadly still seem to put the celebrity of those who make noise for no reason front and center. The Snookies and Gosselins of reality television are there. How many mothers can point to the meaningless characters on the reality shows and then point to our daughters and say “not on my watch?”

We need to keep people of courage and dignity front and center as models for our young. Who would you put there with Congresswoman Gifford?

It’s Not the Way We Thought It Would Be

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

Times are tough and they don’t seem to be getting any easier right now. So, what is wrong? The following is a good article about handling depression and work. However, not many of us are lucky enough to be able to take a year off to mend. What are your techniques to handle depression and keep going? I don’t mean a clinical depression that really sets you down, I mean the depression we all experience when times are tough and fun is short. I’d love to hear from you.

“Is Your Job Making You Depressed?” by Therese Borchard, Contributor – Huffington Post

The other day I wrote a post for Blisstree.com on how to stay productive when you are clinically depressed. I mentioned that, at my rock bottom, I had to take a break altogether from writing, as every time I sat down in front of my computer, all I could do was cry. Moreover, because my concentration was so totally shot, composing a sentence — much less an article — wasn’t going to happen.

I took a year off. To heal.

Because my husband was gainfully employed at that time, I was able to swing it.

Eventually I tiptoed back to the working world. Very slowly. Very carefully. Very deliberately. Because a sudden plunge might have rendered me disabled for another year or so.

Click here to read the full Huffington Post article.

My response to the article:
Thanks for the honesty, that is part of a healing process. In this day and age depression is in the air, in the news, on the tube, it is a cultural commodity.

There is one other aspect that is important to consider. Way back in the family each of us was imbibed with beliefs about what being a grown up would look like. If the reality doesn’t fit the picture we feel betrayed and often guilty. It is these old fears and disappoint­ments that set us into a depression about work.

I believe we are all going through a time of adjustment to what life is like on planet earth right now. Boomers can’t retire and just play, kids out of school with freshly minted degrees can’t get jobs, and the rest of us are working harder and longer than ever before. So, it’s time to recalibrat­e and make internal adjustment­s or the veil of depression will cover each of us.

There are some ways to rethink before depression gets to heavy. My book “Don’t Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns that Limit Success” can help.
Sylvia Lafair, President, Creative Energy Options (CEOinc)

How Are You Reading this Summer?

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
BookThis is an excellent post about our old friends books that seem to be going the wayof the dinosaur. This gives us pause to say are we giving up more than we are getting as we lose the quality of putting books in our hands. It is a good dialogue to have since leaders are required to look at both the short and long turn consequences of actions and reactions.
In the Age of Distraction, We Need One Thing More Than Ever: Books
by Johann Hari
In the twentieth century, all the nightmare-novels of the future  imagined books would be burned. In the twenty-first century, our  dystopias imagine a world where books are forgotten. To pluck just one,  Gary Steynghart’s novel Super Sad True Love Story describes a world where everybody is obsessed with their electronic Apparat — an even more omnivorous iPhone with a flickering stream of shopping and  reality shows and porn — and have somehow come to believe that the few  remaining unread paper books let off a rank smell. The book on the book, it suggests, is closing.
I have been thinking about this because I recently moved flats, which for me meant boxing and heaving several Everests of books, accumulated  obsessively since I was a kid. Ask me to throw away a book, and I begin  shaking like Meryl Streep in Sophie’s Choice and insist that I  just couldn’t bear to part company with it, no matter how unlikely it is I will ever read (say) a 1000-page biography of little-known Portuguese dictator Antonio Salazar. As I stacked my books high, and watched my  friends get buried in landslides of novels or avalanches of polemics, it struck me that this scene might be incomprehensible a generation from now. Yes, a few specialists still haul their vinyl collections from house to house, but the rest of us have migrated happily to MP3s, and regard them as slightly odd. Does it matter? What was really lost?
The book — the physical paper book — is being circled by a shoal of sharks, with sales down 9 percent this year alone. It’s being chewed by the e-book. It’s being gored by the death of the bookshop and the library. And most importantly, the mental space it occupied is being eroded by the thousand Weapons of Mass Distraction that surround us all. It’s hard to admit, but we all sense it: it is becoming almost physically harder to read books. I think we should start there — because it shows why we need the physical book to survive, and hints at
what we need to do to make sure it does.
In his gorgeous little book The Lost Art of Reading — Why Books Matter in a Distracted Time, the critic David Ulin admits to a strange feeling. All his life, he had taken reading as for
granted as eating — but then, a few years ago, he “became aware, in an apartment full of books, that I could no longer find within myself the quiet necessary to read.” He would sit down to do it at night, as he always had, and read a few paragraphs, then find his mind was wandering, imploring him to check his email, or Twitter, or Facebook. “What I’m struggling with,” he writes, “is the encroachment of the buzz, the sense that there’s something out there that merits my attention, when in fact it’s mostly a series of disconnected riffs, quick takes and fragments, that add up to the anxiety of the age.”
I think most of us have this sense today, if we are honest. If you read a book with your laptop thrumming at the other side of the room, it can feel like trying to read with a heavy metal band shrieking in front of you. To read, you need to slow down. You need mental silence except for the words. That’s getting harder to find.
No, don’t misunderstand me. I adore the web, and they will have to wrench my Twitter feed from my cold dead hands. This isn’t going to turn into an antedeluvian rant against the glories of our wired world. But there’s a reason why that word — ‘wired’ — means both ‘connected to the internet’ and ‘high, frantic, unable to concentrate.’
So in the age of the internet, physical paper books are a technology we need more, not less. In the 1950s, the novelist Herman Hesse wrote: “The more the need for entertainment and mainstream education can be met by new inventions, the more the book will recover its dignity and authority. We have not yet quite reached the point where young competitors, such as radio, cinema, etc, have taken over the functions from the book it can’t afford to lose.”
We have now reached that point. And here’s the function that the book — the paper book that doesn’t beep or flash or link or let you watch a thousand videos all at once — does for you that nothing else will. It gives you the capacity for deep, linear concentration. As Ulin puts it: “Reading is an act of resistance in a landscape of distraction… It requires us to pace ourselves. It returns us to a reckoning with time. In the midst of a book, we have no choice but to be patient, to take each thing in its moment, to let the narrative prevail. We regain the
world by withdrawing from it just a little, by stepping back from the noise.”
A book has a different relationship to time than a TV show or a Facebook update. It says that something was worth taking from the endless torrent of data and laying down on an object that will still look the same a hundred years from now. The French writer Jean-Phillipe De Tonnac says “the true function of books is to safeguard the things that forgetfulness constantly threatens to destroy.” It’s precisely because it is not immediate — because it doesn’t know what happened five minutes ago in Kazakhstan, or in Charlie Sheen’s apartment — that the book matters.
That’s why we need books, and why I believe they will survive. Because most humans have a desire to engage in deep thought and deep concentration. Those muscles are necessary for deep feeling and deep engagement. Most humans don’t just want mental snacks forever; they also want meals. The twenty hours it takes to read a book require a sustained concentration it’s hard to get anywhere else. Sure, you can do that with a DVD boxset too — but your relationship to TV will always ultimately be that of a passive spectator. With any book, you are the co-creator, imagining it as you go. As Kurt Vonnegut put it, literature
is the only art form in which the audience plays the score.
I’m not against e-books in principle — I’m tempted by the Kindle — but the more they become interactive and linked, the more they multitask and offer a hundred different functions, the less they will be able to preserve the aspects of the book that we actually need. An e-book reader that does a lot will not, in the end, be a book. The object needs to remain dull so the words — offering you the most electric sensation of all: insight into another person’s internal life — can sing.
So how do we preserve the mental space for the book? We are the first generation to ever use the internet, and when I look at how we are  reacting to it, I keep thinking of the Inuit communities I met in the Arctic, who were given alcohol and sugar for the first time a generation ago, and guzzled them so rapidly they were now sunk in obesity and alcoholism. Sugar, alcohol and the web are all amazing pleasures and joys — but we need to know how to handle them without letting them addle us.
The idea of keeping yourself on a digital diet will, I suspect,  become mainstream soon. Just as I’ve learned not to stock my fridge with tempting carbs, I’ve learned to limit my exposure to the web — and to love it in the limited window I allow myself. I have installed the program ‘Freedom’ on my laptop: it will disconnect you from the web for however long you tell it to.  It’s the Ritalin I need for my web-induced ADHD. I make sure I activate it so I can dive into the more permanent world of the printed page for at least two hours a day, or I find myself with a sense of endless online connection that leaves you oddly disconnected from yourself.
T.S. Eliot called books “the still point of the turning world.” He was right. It turns out, in the age of super-speed broadband we need dead trees to have living minds.
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My comment to the article above:
“This post says “STOP, THINK, STOP AGAIN, PONDER”. Isn’t that what books are all about? I am now writing an ebook “GUTSY: How Women Leaders Make Change” and it has been suggested that I add a vidoe component. I have resisted. I still want the written word to paint the pictures and leave something to the imaginatio­n.

With every new invention we win and lose. The telephone gave us connectivi­ty and yet we lost the mystery of distance. Paperless books will save trees yet make us less willing to stop, think, ponder as we no longer have those soft to the touch pages to turn. Someone once said “when wallowing in a vat of hot fudge one yells out for a piece of celery”. I hope that too much technology will cause us to yearn for the older magic of books.

Leadership Development: What Do We Really Want to Develop?

Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

What do we learn from competition? Is this where we get our self-esteem? What do we do when we lose? How do we handle setbacks? What does it mean when the mantra is “winning is everything”? Now in the legal system, Lance Armstrong does not say he took anything to make him able to go faster, to be stronger. All he said is “I did not test positive”. Is that like Bill Clinton’s famous refrain “I did not have sexual relations with that woman?”.

We need to start asking the hard questions before there will not be anyone left who is living life for the joy of it, win or lose, just for the delight of growing and learning. Let me know what you think.

The Armstrong Enigma by James Moore, contributor to the Huffington Post.

“If you live in Austin, you can almost breathe the Lance Armstrong legend in the air. Everybody intimately knows the tale and its grand parameters. Who has such athletic accomplishments; especially after cancer? His greatness and, indeed, humility were made even more manifest when he established a foundation to help in the global quest to end cancer. We have in our midst, many Texans believe, an individual who is exceptional in character and achievement.

The Armstrong profiled by interviews and narrative in the 60 Minutes report on CBS is difficult, if not impossible, for many people in Austin to process. The arc of Lance’s story has been always upward from the time he was pronounced cancer free. He got healthier, faster, fitter, wealthier, and more magnanimous with time. Every chapter of this American tale was written with bold strokes through nothing more than focus and determination.

There are now, however, several of Armstrong’s teammates during the period of his ride to glory, who are sketching out an anti-hero. The young man they describe thinks of regulations and rules as opponents to be defeated. Each of Armstrong’s teammates, meanwhile, is being attacked for a lack of credibility, and, in fact, their own confessions about doping turn them into liars. Tyler Hamilton, Floyd Landis, Stephen Swart, Frankie Andreu, and, if CBS is correct, George Hincapie, were all part of a deception to use performance-enhancing drugs (PEDs) to win. The points of attack are pretty easily established for Armstrong’s legal and public relations team.

But is Lance the only person telling the truth? Are most of his teammates jealous and petty and pathological liars? They seem to have created an alternative reality with their words.

Armstrong is dismissing Hamilton, as he has other accusers, for lacking credibility. The level of detail described by Lance’s former teammate, however, is difficult to ignore even for casual observers of this controversy. Hamilton, who appeared drawn and a bit emotionally tortured during the taping, told of flying in a private jet to Spain with Lance where they were both transfused with their own red blood cells, a process called blood doping, which improves endurance. He also claimed Armstrong shipped him drugs, that they both put drops of testosterone oil into each other’s mouths after a race, and that he was in the room during conversations with a controversial doctor who was teaching them how and when to use PEDs. Lunch bags of goodies, according to Hamilton, were given to riders that had earned their way into the inner circle. He also said he saw Armstrong use EPO and indicated there was a program driven by Armstrong and the team coach Johan Bruyneel. A similar description was provided by Swart to Sports Illustrated. Regardless, Tyler Hamilton either has a very active imagination or he has opened the door to ignominy for an American icon.”

To read the full article, Click Here.

Leadership Development: The Secret Sauce of Office Gossip

Tuesday, May 17th, 2011

Where there’s smoke there’s fire is the meta- message of gossip. It’s really good for you. That is, it’s really good for you if you learn how to decode it and use it to your advantage.

There is so much “good advice” out there that says stuff like “Find out who is starting the gossip and tell them how you feel”. Okay, that’s great but does it really make change happen?

NO!

Hey listen; here is the special stuff that makes gossip so good for you. It is a feedback system that is there to grown and learn from. “But, but” you say, “it is mean and rude and hurtful”. Maybe so, and to that I say so what.

Sometimes you can get to the source of the gossip and sometimes you can’t. Digging in that rabbit hole can be a waste of time. Here is what I suggest: listen to the essence of what is being said about you. Think of it this way: if you were making a film about office gossip and you were the star and the rumors and innuendos were all pointing to you, what would you name the play. No, don’t whine and be a victim, unless that is what they are saying about you; then you can name the play “Always My Fault”!

Here are some titles that could be really good “The Show Off” (about the super achiever…does the shoe fit?), maybe another would be “The Avenger” (hey are you a rebel at work?) maybe “Outta Here” (that is if you are an avoider).

The key here is to have some fun with this. Gossip has been around ever since there were tribes long ago and a runner from one tribe went to the next, was called into meet with the Chief who would say “So, what’s the juicy word out there”.

Use gossip to your advantage; learn from it and it will be a stepping stone to success at work. Once you tame it, become its friend; you can never be derailed from a positive and firm leadership role in your work life. Stay strong, stay focused, stay curious; life’s an adventure and gossip is a tasty morsel at a roadside restaurant.