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Leadership Challenges for the New Year

Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather?

There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them.

 

What do we want from our leaders to help us with the tides of change?

The following article gives food for thought. So does my response. Enjoy.

What does leadership look like?

Glenn Llopis

Bringing the immigrant perspective to business leaders

Leadership Lessons: Tackle the Big Stuff

Monday, June 20th, 2011

I recently got pulled into some “news” because I took Kate Gosselin to small claims court for ignoring payment of services rendered. It is a sad statement of how some people behave and ignore being true to their word. However, there are far more vital issues than Kate Gosselin and I am not going to participate in taking the case further.

Here is what really matters and how I believe the media could do a better job of taking the high road than worrying about media made “celebrities” and tackle what reality television should and could be about: making our world a more cooperative and caring one!

 

Ocean Report: Risk of Marine Extinctions Unprecedented in Human History

By: Kelly Rigg on Huff Green

A “deadly trio” of carbon-related ocean impacts (ocean acidification, warming, and oxygen depletion) may lead to global marine extinctions on a scale unprecedented in human history. This is one of the main conclusions of a new report by an international panel of marine scientists (see my previous post Ocean of Trouble for more details).

The panel’s main findings were summarized as follows:

  • The combination of stressors on the ocean is creating the conditions associated with every previous major extinction of species in Earth’s history.

Further:

  • The speed and rate of degeneration in the ocean is far faster than anyone has predicted.
  • Many of the negative impacts previously identified are greater than the worst predictions.
  • Although difficult to assess because of the unprecedented speed of change, the first steps to globally significant extinction may have begun with a rise in the extinction threat to marine species such as reef-forming corals.

2011-06-20-NOAAOceangravitymap.jpgNOAA Public DomainAccording to one of the scientists, Professor Jelle Bijma of the Alfred Wegener Institute for Polar and Marine Research, “the current carbon perturbation is unprecedented in the Earth’s history because of the high rate and speed of change. Acidification is occurring faster than in the past 55 million years…” He also pointed out that, “Most, if not all, of the five global mass extinctions in Earth’s history carry the fingerprints of the main symptoms of global carbon perturbations.”

In this case, however, it is us doing the perturbing. Humans are currently conducting what amounts to a radical geo-engineering of the Earth’s life-support system. Geo-engineering is defined as “the deliberate large-scale manipulation of the planetary environment.” Knowing what we do about the relationship between our excessive fossil fuel-driven CO2 emissions and climate change, we can no longer pretend that our impact on the planetary environment is accidental.

So it is with some irony that the release of this report coincides with a two-day meeting of IPCC experts to discuss geo-engineering as part of a “portfolio of response options to anthropogenic climate change.”

Generally speaking, geo-engineering schemes fall into two categories: those which aim to lower temperature (think sunblock, but on a planetary scale), and those which aim to get CO2 out of the atmosphere (such as the ‘fertilization’ of the ocean with iron to increase CO2-absorbing plankton).

Whenever I hear of these sorts of schemes, I think of a Dr. Seuss book I used to read as a child — The Cat in the Hat Comes Back. The self-indulgent cat gorges himself on pink cake in the bath, leaving behind a rosy ring in the tub. Every effort by his team of helper cats to clean up the mess simply causes the stain to spread further, until eventually the entire house and snowy yard has turned into a sickening sea of pink. Just in the nick of time, before the parents come home and the kids get busted, the tiniest cat pulls a out a magical “Voom” from his hat which miraculously cleans up the mess.

If only we had a Voom to clean up the twin problems of climate change and ocean meltdown, and we could put all those fossil fuels back in the hat. But since we don’t and we can’t, we must face three inevitable conclusions:

  1. We need to end our 200-year-old addiction to fossil fuels, a habit which is dumping enormous quantities of CO2 into the atmosphere. In 2010 we set a record — emitting 30.6 gigatonnes of CO2. By conserving energy, using efficiency technologies, and fully replacing fossil fuels with clean renewable sources we can kick the habit. There are many scenarios that prove this is not some utopian vision, but a feasible undertaking that could be accomplished in the next few decades. It’s a no-brainer — the transformation is already underway, and lots of jobs are being created as a result. But governments must stop dragging their feet on measures which could rapidly accelerate this new energy revolution.
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  3. The best way to get existing CO2 out of the atmosphere is to increase the CO2-absorption capacity of natural ecosystems — both on land and at sea. This means halting deforestation and overfishing, stopping the production and discharge of dangerous pollutants, and preventing habitat degradation, to name just a few examples. Perhaps the IPCC experts meeting will identify new methods of removing CO2 from the air without risking further harm to the environment.
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  5. As for geo-engineering, we can rule out right off the bat that any sunblock scheme will save the day, because these do nothing to address ocean acidification. Other schemes that tamper with Earth systems risk Cat in the Hat consequences which we have neither the knowledge nor the wisdom to oversee. It’s not for nothing that the parties to the Convention on Biological Diversity agreed to a de facto moratorium on geo-engineering (PDF).

 

As for me, I can’t decide what’s scarier: men in lab coats playing out their sci-fi fantasies (at least that’s how I picture them), or the fact that there are top scientists who believe we may reach a point when such schemes will actually be needed to save human civilization.

What do you think…? Should we continue our indulgent fossil fuel habit assuming that scientists will actually find the “Vroom” before it’s too late? Or do we just say ‘No’ to fossil fuels?

Follow Kelly Rigg on Twitter: www.twitter.com/kellyrigg

 

My comment on the above post:

“Great post! Don’t we all wish for the magic formulas of that impish Cat in the Hat? We (and sadly that  mean most of us) tend to hope that the hero will come along and save us at the last minute. This is where the behavior patterns of the avoider and denier are most obvious; the hero will do the hard work, not us!
My question is how can the media work for the greater good and use this platform to show tons of  stories of transforma­tion about good people working together for more than money? We can all be the hero. I believe that there would be a surge of goodwill and real effort if visions of transforma­tion were front and center day after day instead of the dreadful barage of make believe looting, shooting, and killing.  Hey, The Cat in the Hat could be the cheerleade­r for all of us to participat­e in solving important human issues with integrity and make real magic happen. Dr. Seuss would have approved.

 

Leadership and Invisible Privilege

Thursday, November 18th, 2010

ArroganceDid you ever say about your boss, your sibling, your neighbor “Who does he think he is?” Now, this is not said as a curiosity question; it is said as a statement of indignation. Translate that question to its core and what is really being said is “He thinks he is such a big deal” or “He is so full of himself”.

When this happens you are usually in the right ball park. Individuals who come across as “holier than thou” have a belief that they are better than others. Where does that come from? Issues of power and privilege come from the three areas that form us: family, culture, and crises.

The more astute you are about picking up the cues around issues of power and privilege, the better equipped you are to discuss them rather than get hurt or angry.

Here are a few examples: in the past males were seen as the leaders and females were in a lesser role; there was also lots of judgment about minorities that made individuals and groups feel superior to others. Money has always played a role.  Height, being tall was better than being short; thin better than fat, and on and on.

The visuals of a culture go into our make up when we are tiny, little kids. A Rodgers and Hammerstein song from South Pacific says it best: “You have to be taught to hate and fear, You have to be taught from year to year, It has to be drummed into your dear little ear, You have to be carefully taught.”

The rise of feminism and social justice has helped us make changes by bringing the patterns of the past up for review. No longer is it acceptable to permit the elephants of invisible privilege to lead the way.

Every large system, especially education and health care can be toxic with the fumes of an old, outdated invisible pecking order. We all need to work hard to find ways to challenge the old order by asking questions.

Rather than merely being indignant when we say “Who do they think they are” it is time to look at the hidden meanings, often from long ago that have kept power and privilege in the hands of those born into the “right” family or the “right” culture.

As we continue to be educated in systems thinking, knowing that every change in a system will impact the entire system we can all ask the deeper questions; : “what constitutes fairness” , “how do we earn rights and entitlements” and remember, the essence of our Total Leadership Connections program, that “no one wins unless we all do”.

It’s about you, it’s about me, and it’s about time!

Leadership Strategies: An Eye for an Eye is One Way

Thursday, October 21st, 2010
Business Leadership

Ghandi - An eye for an eye.....

We have become the people of the parentheses as my old friend psychologist Jean Houston used to say. The old order has broken down and the new ways of relating are still forming. The following article sent a sick feeling to my gut. If this is going to be the way of the world, well, somewhere is a quiet island I can share with my fun loving and amazingly caring husband. I KNOW how good it feels to give just for the sheer joy of it, be it a compliment, a birthday gift, even the capacity to pay for a lunch when someone looks down and hungry.

Read this article and my response. Let me know when you have given just to give and how that has impacted you. I’d like to give the first three people a complimentary copy of “Don’t Bring It to Work” and if you already have one, well, you can give it away.

My Business Philosophy: “I won’t help you unless you help me”

By Richard Laermer, CEO, RLM PR, New York City

My PR agency, which creates and manages campaigns for technology firms and entrepreneurial ventures, has been around for 20 years. We’ve got 15 staff and about $2 million in annual revenue. I’ve also written 12 books and spend half my time doing speaking engagements, and so I’ve made influential connections. I’m guessing a lot of people view me as an authority in a bunch of fields, and so I get sought out a lot for plain old everyday advice. The trouble is the Internet has made it too easy to contact people and that ease translates to inherent laziness.

Back when we sent messages through the U.S. mail, about a million years ago, we all needed to think through what we wanted to say. Now our written communication is disposable. We push buttons — our thoughts appear and vanish like spit on a griddle — and we rarely, if ever, consider how our messages are received. As a result, I lose half of my day dealing with emails from time-wasters who have nothing to offer to me or to my company. So I’ve made it my mission to reeducate the writers of crap email on the etiquette of basic communication.

Feeling used and bemused

I make it my job to “scour the waterfront” and to research the latest trends in media and other areas that I’m immersed in, looking for material that I can point out to my clients and contacts. So I’ll often send an email with some thoughts on an issue, or a link to a news story that might interest a fellow executive I’ve met or befriended. It’s amazing how many of them don’t even bother to respond with a “thank you” — this is just the way it is now. Then two years later they’ll email me asking for work or an introduction on LinkedIn or Facebook. Meanwhile, I’m thinking, “Where were you before — or is that not the issue?”

Other times strangers will write me with the vaguest of requests. One guy sent me a message on Twitter the other day with: “I’m trying to move from real estate into the film PR industry, and someone [I don't even really like] said you could help me.”

How does one respond to that question? I attempted anyway, asking, “What do you mean I can help you? Do you want me to write your resumé and take you to Brooks Brothers for a fitting? How about an actual question that merits a realistic answer?”

He unfollowed me.

What about me?

I’m a busy guy — I am proud of my social life; who the Hell has one these days? — and I just don’t have time to help anyone unless I stand to gain something (anything) from them. So when people write asking me for favors — like help with finding an agent or writing a book proposal — I’ll write back with the Dictionary.com definition of quid pro quo: “one thing in return for another.” Sometimes I’ll just send them to the fabulous site Let Me Google That for You.

I don’t care how important they are. I’ve sent the same advice to CEOs who’ve asked me for help after ignoring me when I solicited their companies for PR work. They rarely appreciate my bluntness. They inevitably complain in a passive aggressive way via a third party; it turns out they’ll never work with me. I’ll write them — often in the form of a note card in the mail — with, “Hey. Can you have the person who replaces you call me? Please.”

I’m very polite, see.

There’s no such thing as a favor in business. Clients pay in cash and in G-d we trust. So if a stranger or acquaintance requests a favor, I’ll shoot back, “Why? Really, why? Is there a reason I need to help you?”

If that person lobs a good answer over the net, then I’ll lend a hand. It is, after all, just time. But I want to make sure he knows what it is he’s asking, and that it requires a sacrifice on my part. People forget. It’s almost as if there’s this “You’re there, why not?” attitude.

Educating chumps

I’m well-versed in how people respond to communication — that’s what I think and write and Tweet about every day of my young life. I am half of The Bad Pitch Blog, where we rain all over PR reps’ (and journalists’) awful writing and horrendous behavior. I know what makes people laugh, and I know what pisses them off. So if someone’s angering me, I’ll make sure she knows it. (I also tell people when they crack me up. Quid pro quo and all!)

The vast majority of people get ticked off when I tell them that they’re being rude. They’re not used to their obnoxious behavior being called out. What they don’t get is that I really want them to get better at business — or at least a little better at being a person. No one else is going to tell them the truth. Life is short.

My long-term partner always asks me “Why bother? You can’t wizen up a chump.”

But I’ve found that one out of every 50 lazy-asses can be changed — there are a lot of old dogs out there. Every now and then, one of my, ahem, pupils will say, “Thanks for telling me that. I didn’t realize I was offending anyone.” That, to me, seems worth the effort. Man, I hope I’m not kidding myself.

Richard Laermer is co-creator of Punk Marketing, as well as a public speaker, a HuffPo columnist, the author of Full Frontal PR and a former reality-show host. He resides in New York and California but lives most of his life in the air behind a seatback tray table.

– As told to Kathryn Hawkins

Comment of Sylvia Lafair’s:

Gandhi”s quote seems appropriate here “An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.” I would not want to be a friend or even a client. My guess is Mr. Laremer was ignored or discounted as a kid, it shows by how he starts the article strutting his stuff, and now in a “power position” is gaining his revenge.

In “Don’t Bring It to Work” people learn how to transform the negative patterns learned from their original organization, the family to positive, respectful ways of communicating. I vote for kindness and caring above getting to give any day!

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MSNBC: BP CEO, Tony Hayward

Friday, July 30th, 2010
Villian Pattern

Hayward

When the going gets tough the tough do not go yachting! This article recapping (interesting use of the word!) what Tony Hayward said in the Wall Street Journal article shows a perfect example of a victim pattern of behavior. While the situation is dreadful, Hayward was unable to give us any faith that he was truly at the helm. Leadership development programs really need to put in modules that prepare a future CEO for looking at internal resources for creative and powerful leading through dark times.

BP CEO: I became a villain…

Tony Hayward, who resigned as chief executive of BP in the wake of the Gulf oil spill, has said that he was turned into “a villain for doing the right thing.”

In his first interview since deciding to step down, Hayward told the Wall Street Journal that he did everything possibleafter the Deepwater Horizon exploded, by taking responsibility for the spill and spending billions on the clean-up operation and efforts to stop the leak.

The newspaper said he was unrepentant about BP’s response to the spill and that he resented criticism from the Obama administration, although he also admitted that he “understood their frustration.”

“I became a villain for doing the right thing,” Hayward said in the interview. “But I understand that people find it easier to vilify an individual more than a company.

“I didn’t want to leave BP, because I love the company,” he added. “Because I love the company, I must leave BP.

“In America, the road back will be long but I believe achievable when the whole truth of the accident finally emerges and the Gulf Coast is restored. BP can rebuild faster in America without Tony Hayward as its CEO,” he continued.

Hayward, 53, also told the paper that some comments he had made — which earned him a reputation for being gaffe-prone — were “wrong,” particularly his infamous “I’d like my life back.”

However, some critics remained unimpressed.

“Mr. Hayward should be less concerned about his vindication, and more concerned about what BP will do to end the victimization of families and businesses in the Gulf,” Rep. Edward Markey told the Journal. “It will take years of continued commitment to the restoration of the Gulf before BP has the legitimacy to engage in historical revisionism.”

Richard Charter, senior policy adviser for maritime programs at conservation group Defenders of Wildlife, added: “No one in his right mind would characterize BP’s effort as successful.”

 

My Response to Article:

The true test of a leader comes when everything down and dirty hits the fan. In this respect Tony Hayward gets a failing grade. In the Wall Street Journal interview he sadly sounds like a victim, claiming he was turned into “a villain for doing the right thing“.

He misses the point totally. It was his “wimpy” manner of response that disappointed all of us watching oil fill up our beautiful ocean. The pattern of “victim” runs deep and victim responses are always laden with hand wringing and poor-me statements. In “Don’t Bring It to Work” the victim who grows and shows stamina transforms into the explorer; one who goes beyond the obvious to find innovative solutions, or at least sets the stage for these solutions to show up.

It is too soon to know all the details about how this messy accident was really handled. In the meantime we have seen yet again a well paid CEO crumble when the going is tough ; when the requirement is for personal strength and superb accountability.

Business Week: Your Leadership Portfolio

Monday, July 26th, 2010

Here is a thorough article for those who have technical skills and are transitioning into leadership settings. I was specifically struck by the part that talks about those in CIO positions being proactive change leaders. What was said rings true: “Proactive change leaders take actions to influence specific individuals, giving them parts to play in the change effort. They engage with people throughout the change process, addressing emotional reactions and maintaining commitment.”

My value add is that it is critical for these proactive change leaders to understand the behavior patterns that lie underneath the emotional reactions. This does not mean leaders need to become depth coaches or see themselves as therapists (that is an old model of thinking). What they need to do is ask open ended questions and find out how their direct reports have responded to change in the past. That is the clue to helping move things forward in a positive way.

In “Don’t Bring It to Work” the 13 most common behavior patterns in the workplace are discussed. There is even a quiz you can take at www.sylvialafair.com to observe your patterns and have your employees take the quiz. It is a great eye opener for the emotional areas of change that will show up whether we want them to or not.

Article: Your Leadership Portfolio: The View from C-Level

Former senior IT leaders who rise to head of the function are often surprised by the competencies that they are expected to have at the C-level. As we discussed in the second installment in this series (“Your Leadership Portfolio: The Critical Move from Senior IT Leader to the C-Level,” May 28, 2010), the key competencies for senior IT leaders are Team Leadership, Collaboration & Influencing and People & Organization Development. These are largely people skills, requiring the ability to influence and lead high-performing teams. As the Leadership Competencies Development Journey graphic (below) indicates, the progression to IT Function Head CIO requires the individual to place a much greater emphasis on the development of broad business skills, underpinned by people skills.

Not surprisingly, many very capable IT leaders struggle to master this critical inflection point, which demands more active engagement outside the IT organization. They can prepare for this challenging transition by actively seeking opportunities to get hands-on business experience, while taking care not to derail their IT careers. Ideally, such experience would mean responsibility for a P&L, but it could mean taking responsibility for a business project and its budget, or participating as an equal partner–not just as an IT representative–on a committee focused on some key aspect of the business. They can also look for ways to collaborate more closely with business-unit heads, or other top business leaders, on market challenges. Then, when they step into the C-suite, they will be prepared for the vastly changed perspective it brings.

The Function Head CIO: Leveraging Where and How the Company Makes Money

What does a Function Head CIO really do? Instead of focusing primarily on the IT organization, as the Senior IT Leader does, the Function Head CIO must look out across the entire enterprise, work with C-level peers, and become an active and credible provider to the business. This change of perspective brings three critical competencies, and their associated behaviors, to the fore:

* Market Knowledge: This is about understanding where the company makes money. At the reactive performance level (shown on the y-axis of the Journey graphic), one may have only a general understanding of the company’s marketplace. But IT Function Head CIOs at the active level demonstrate a detailed understanding of the market, the competitors, the suppliers, and, where appropriate, the regulatory environment. At the proactive level, they identify market sub-segments and understand the profit potential of each.

Proactive performers look beyond the current environment and identify emerging trends and segments, understand how competitor actions affect competitive dynamics, and the implications for their company’s technology landscape. They use their detailed market knowledge to create innovative ways to engage and serve customers, partner with suppliers and blunt competitive threats. At the very highest level, which is rarely attained but is worth noting, the result can be new products or services that reshape the market.

* Commercial Orientation: This is about how the company makes money. At the reactive level, the individual understands the importance of commercial success, works toward financial goals, and understands how various functions contribute to profitability but may lack a thorough understanding of how to link activities to financial metrics. Active performers identify areas of the function that can contribute to profitability, and they act quickly on commercial opportunities. The proactive leader generates profit-making initiatives beyond their immediate area, drives commercial behavior throughout the organization, and finds new ways to maximize profitability from each step of the value chain. At the highest level of performance–again, rarely attained–the leader is able to create long-term advantage by reshaping the business model of the industry.

* Change Leadership: As the graphic indicates, competency in change leadership is also important at this stage and becomes even more critical for the Business Strategist CIO. Performers at the reactive level of Change Leadership tolerate change, while active change leaders are adept at advocating change and communicating a clear and compelling new direction. In pushing for change, they set clear targets that focus people and activities on achieving the change agenda and develop metrics that both monitor and motivate change.

Proactive change leaders take actions to influence specific individuals, giving them parts to play in the change effort. They engage with people throughout the change process, addressing emotional reactions and maintaining commitment. And they build coalitions of such people and create champions who then mobilize others. The even more proactive are also as at home with process as with people. They introduce high-impact actions such as redesigning organization structures, processes and systems to drive and reinforce the desired changes. In rare cases, that ability coupled with their relentless drive for renewal creates and embeds a culture of change that continually adapts to new and evolving markets.

The Transformational CIO: Bringing the Customer into Focus

Having proactively demonstrated Market Knowledge and Commercial Orientation, the Function Head CIO will be poised to take on the role of Transformational CIO with its additional demanding competency of External Customer Focus.

* Customer Focus: Many IT people are accustomed to thinking of customers inside the four walls of the company. But for the Transformational CIO, the focus widens to include the external customer. At the reactive level, Customer Focus is essentially order-taking, a stance the Transformational CIO will have moved far beyond. At the active level, Customer Focus is about actively digging into and understanding the customer’s needs, seeing services from the customer’s perspective, and identifying the unique key measures of success with a given customer. These behaviors are used internally by the outstanding IT Function Head CIO, but will be extended outward for the outstanding Transformational CIO.

At the proactive level, the benchmark behaviors include delivering improved customer offerings with win/win impact, developing best practices for working with the customer, and championing those best practices internally. The highly proactive Transformational CIO initiates and manages multiple contacts with the customer’s organization, creating impact far beyond individual transactions and in some cases becoming a trusted advisor to the customer and contributing to strategic discussions in the customer organization. In rare instances, the most accomplished Transformational CIO is able to partner with the customer to develop new supplier relationship models that can change industry dynamics and force competitors to follow or fall behind.

In the next installment in this series, we take an even deeper dive into this critical stage of the journey, the last stop before its culmination in the role of Business Strategist CIO.

Steve Kelner is a partner in the Boston office of Egon Zehnder International. He is a leader of the firm’s Leadership Strategy Services practice, specializing in management appraisals and team effectiveness. He can be reached at steve.kelner@ezi.net.

Chris Patrick is a partner in the Dallas office of Egon Zehnder International. He leads the Global CIO Practice. A former practicing CIO, he helps firms across all industries identify, assess and recruit top technology talent. He can be reached at chris.patrick@ezi.net.

Teaching Leadership

Tuesday, July 6th, 2010

There has been a fascinating discussion going on for several weeks on the Leadership Think Tank Group on LinkedIn. The question is “If you could teach one thing to a young leader what would it be?”

There have been over 250 responses and the vast array of answers creates a composite of the myriad aspects of  leadership development. It does seem that the largest number of answers believe that leadership is an art and craft that can be learned.

One particular answer by Tom Tavares caught my attention. He talks about helping leaders with the vital skill of problem solving under pressure. He states “Based on 500 in-depth profiles of leaders in a wide variety of industries, 80% or more fall back on their own problem-solving skills when under pressure. Leaders start their careers as specialists and are strong problem-solvers. When pressure builds, fixing things themselves provides a sense of control.”

This is so true and is something we all need to consider when the going is tough. In “Don’t Bring It to Work” I talk about the fact that when stress hits the hot button we all tend to revert to patterns of behavior learned in our original organization, the family and that is what we bring into the workplace.

Think about how you coped under pressure when you were eight or ten or fourteen. Now, look at how you problem solve in your adult life at work? What are the common threads? this will help you find the way out to new and more effective behavior.

In the third session of our Total Leadership Connections program problem solving is a key theme. Participants have the opportunity to do a “Pep Talk” concerning a problem-solving issue of their choosing. They can decide to address a work issue or one closer to home. Pep Talk stands for “Pattern Encounter Process” and there is the opportunity to look at the long-term behavior patterns, the coping mechanisms that absolutely pop-up unconsciously when there is stress and anxiety.

What is amazing is how hard it is to see it on ourselves when we are in those stress-filled moments. We learned how to survive when we were kids. How do I know? Just look in the mirror; we’re still here. Trouble is what worked for us as youngsters is not always the best solution as an adult.

Think about it; did you take the fight or flight route? Many a young leader both takes the offensive and is a persecutor and finger pointer in getting through tough times. Others take the avoider route and figures everything will handle itself if I just wait long enough. Others become the victim, some the rescuers. There are the deniers who look a problem square in the face and say “No big deal”.

We can see so many of the patterned responses playing out in the tragedy of the BP oil fiasco. But wait, before you cast the first stone, look inside and think about your own leadership manner of working through tough times at work.

Back to Tom Tavares advice; he suggests leaders take the route of collaboration saying “one mind and many hands is less intelligent than many minds in solving problems from the outset.”  I agree that this can help stop the old patterned responses from taking over. Being able to use your leadership team in a cooperative manner and making sure there is openness to question decisions can lead to better and best decisions in the long run.

Leadership Strategies and Mirror Neurons

Monday, June 28th, 2010

Here is the scene: at an off-site I was facilitating last week someone on the team was angry with a colleague. How did we all know Ted was angry?

He smiled. He answered questions in a smooth, quiet voice. He looked engaged……almost.

Yet, whenever his colleague, Dan spoke, Ted would shift from side to side. He would stop smiling and look as if he was sucking on a lemon. His would squint, as if tracking an impending storm in the far away clouds.

Soon everyone in the room had taken on a similar look; twelve people sucking on invisible lemons and waiting for the storm to start.

I waited until the first break and took Ted aside. What was happening? He was “surprised”, actually, surprised and relieved that I had noticed. “Well” he hesitated for a long, long moment. “Well, Sylvia Dan is a liar.” He waited to see how that statement went down.

I responded with a “request sentence” I teach participants in our Total Leadership Connections program. “Tell me more” I stated and then shut up.

The essence of the issue between Ted and Dan could derail the entire group if it is left blowing in the wind. It can cause havoc because they are two strong and competent leaders who would intentionally or unintentionally cause the rest of the group to choose sides.

Have you ever been on a team where members are smiling, talking properly and yet the dissention is there; and everyone knows it? I bring this up because it is a vital part of team dynamics and all team building programs should require a section about workplace conflict resolution. Unless conflict is faced and resolved it become like a systemic disease that impacts everyone.

I’d like to have you send me your “war stories” and how they were (or were not) handled elegantly. The first three will receive a copy of my book “Don’t Bring It to Work” and will be the basis of a series of blogs I am doing to help diminish conflict in the workplace.

Are You an Open Book?

Monday, June 14th, 2010

There is a fascinating debate in most companies about transparency. How open should you be? It sounds so good, doesn’t it? And yet…..

How much openness is enough? Open to what, to whom? When do you close the valve of self disclosure? What are the ramifications of bringing up the curtain on your inner life?

The discussion, part of a Total Leadership Connections session, went late into the night. Here is how it started:

We had finished the powerful second session of the four part program, the time when everyone has the opportunity to answer the pivotal question “What formed you? What are the patterns that were handed from generation to generation that you have carried into your life, both at home and a work?

No one is required to reveal anything. It is an individual decision what to say or not say. Yet this is one of the few times that a program is set for business people to look at the patterns they learned in their original organization, the family and how those patterns were transferred to their present work organization. The level of “aha’s” is astounding.

Okay, so the formal presentations were over and it was time to unwind and chat. One thing, as they say, led to another, and one of the participants turned to a colleague and said “Remember when I mentioned that my brother has been an outcast in our family? Until you talked about your sister who was the black sheep and how you decided to find her and bring her back into the fold I never thought about doing anything to help. I have been embarrassed and really never talk about her. It’s private and painful.”

They continued until a plan was formed to call the same private detective and begin a search. The intention was set; the plan would wait till the morning. Neither man had ever realized that the pain of a discounted family member had landed right in their work settings. They talked about how each had become a denier; when there were deep conflicts at work, the principle way it was handled was to get rid of the “problem” and make sure that everyone stayed happy and job focused. No one ever talked about the emotional undertow of someone who was fired or downsized. It was business as usual, as if the person who left had never existed; just like in their families.

The next day they sat together and called the detective. A search would begin for the missing brother.

Life, as we know, is always more intriguing that fiction. At a lunch break when folks were checking computers and phones, the lost brother surfaced. No need for detectives. It was as if the intention to reconnect was enough. These kinds of synchronises happen when we are ready and willing for change to happen. They make differences for us in all aspects of our lives, at home and at work.

The key to leadership is not about being open or closed, as much as it is about the where, when and how. I suggest that it is all in the timing.

Leaders need a safe place to explore what pushes their buttons and what to do about it. They need to connect the dots of how home and work lives connect. They need to factor in the emotional with the rational.

The best advice I can give is to find a safe program to get under the obvious of leadership and peel the layers away. You never know who or what you can find and have a happy ending.

Fed’s Bernanke: Money ‘By Itself’ Doesn’t Buy Happiness

Wednesday, May 12th, 2010

I found this very good article on Ecreditdaily.com on Bernanke’s commencement address at the University of South Carolina.  Please read and note my comments; I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Fed Chairman Ben BernankeIt was not your typical speech by the Federal Reserve chairman; then again, this was a commencement address at the University of South Carolina in Columbia, about a two-hour drive from Dillon, where Ben Bernanke spent much of his childhood.

The Fed chief’s address focused on happiness, and reaffirmed some age-old parental advice: money isn’t everything.

Bernanke didn’t entirely abandon economics, however, as he referenced studies measuring contentment and income.

“Although today most Americans surveyed will tell you they are happy with their lives, the fraction of those who say that they are happy is not any higher than it was 40 years ago, when average incomes in the United States were considerably lower and few could even imagine developments like mobile phones or the Internet,” Bernanke said, referring to a study years ago by economist Richard Easterlin.

The economist, Bernanke told graduates, found that once you “get above a basic sustenance level–on average, people in rich countries don’t report being all that much happier than people in lower-income countries.”

For example, he said, Americans have reported similar levels of happiness as do Costa Ricans, who have about one-quarter the per capita income.

Other studies have contradicted that notion and contend that richer countries heighten happiness through higher levels of technology, infrastructure and healthcare.

So Bernanke took a stand somewhere in the middle ground.

“So I am going to continue under the assumption that, although wealth and income do contribute to happiness and life satisfaction, other factors must also be very important,” he said. “Or, as your parents always said, money doesn’t buy happiness. Well, an economist might reply, at least not by itself.”

He also said that happiness is often measured by the degree of human interaction, more so than the amount of material wealth. And that both psychologists and economists agree.

“Happy people tend to spend time with friends and family and put emphasis on social and community relationships,” Bernanke said. “We are social creatures. Research has demonstrated that happiness and life satisfaction are perhaps more closely related to participating meaningfully in a network of friends, family, and community than any other factor.”

My response:

Bernanke gave an important speech. As an economist, not a psychologist (which is my field) or a motivational guru, he stated what we know and tend to ignore. Money by itself truly has questionable value. It does seem high time that those in the financial realm begin to speak out. King Midas found out too late the limited benefits of having it all. Remember the children’s story? He was granted the wish to be the richest man in the world and everything he touched turned to gold, including his daughter who just wanted a hug.

Time we stop showing celebrities with hundreds of shoes and start to talk values with those getting ready to enter the work force before they become addicted to the false premise that more is better. At some point more, even oxygen, becomes toxic.