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Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather?
There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them.
What do we want from our leaders to help us with the tides of change?
The following article gives food for thought. So does my response. Enjoy.
Bringing the immigrant perspective to business leaders
Tags: Accountability, Behavior, Business, Conflict, Economy, Ethics, Huffington Post, Leaders, Leadership, Politics, Power
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Thursday, December 22nd, 2011

Lots of deaths of powerful men in the past year. Many have been dictators who had tons of money and little integrity.
Think about these 3 questions:
- Ever wonder why we permit these men to “rule” us?
- Ever wonder why millions will stay quiet and let those who have found the path to brute power to keep it?
- Ever think about how we can make a better difference and make a better world?
Vaclav Havel was an actor, a playwright, an artist. Maybe there is a clue there. The arts are a way to the heart. Even the word eARTh gives us a clue. Expressing oneself through music, movement, painting, poetry, theater touches the deep core of who we are. Maybe, just maybe, we should be finding leaders who have a different kind of power to lead us. Havel had that mysterious and important blend. What about you?
Click above to read the article by Barry Wood, Economics Journalist at HuffPost World.
Tags: Accountability, art, Economy, expression, History, Huffington Post, Leaders, Leadership, Politics, Power, Psychology, Yaclav Havel
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Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

This insightful blog brings up a multitude of questions about active leadership.
What do you do when things are tough and the “kids” are fighting?
Betsy's Page
-This is leadership? by Betsy Newmark
http://betsyspage.blogspot.com/2011/11/this-is-leadership.html
Tags: Accountability, Economy, Leaders, Leadership, leadership development, Management, Politics, Sylvia Lafair
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Thursday, November 17th, 2011
The “new” politics is happening. It is a return, or maybe a new turn to participatory human scale democracy. It is what is blossoming all around this country, all around the world. Modern technology is being used for good, not just fun or stimulation. The world is coming together in a new way, and as Robert Reich states, apathy is taking a hike!
The wave of involvement includes local grassroots initiatives, a redefining of power, and a way of getting to the core of issues that impact all of us. This is not about the 99%, it really is about the human desire for reaching potential and being altruistic; helping each other.
The “new’ politics is expressed by an “organic” worldview; it is inclusive rather than exclusive. The balance is between “CARE and DARE
” which is the meeting place of male and female ways of thinking and being.
It is in everyone’s nature to care and it is in everyone’s nature to dare, to take risks and make a difference. The evolving worldview that is being shaken loose is seen in the camaraderie of young and elder, diverse folks from diverse backgrounds who no longer are willing to be told what to do and how to live.
The statements from Berkeley California to Manhattan New York are one and the same. We all matter. The perspective is eclectic in detail, yet, generally affirms the human need for far more that material well-being alone. There is an exciting emphasis on holistic values that are life affirming and involve both inner trust in one’s deep beliefs of connectedness as well as group wisdom that we are all connected and no one wins unless we all do.
This is the core of what we teach in our Total Leadership Connections four session program. Come join us in the new wave of transformational leadership. Our new program begins in March 2012 and promises to be amazing and important at this time in the way the world is turning.
Tags: Accountability, Behavioral Patterns, Collaboration, Communication, Education, Leaders, Leadership, leadership development, leadership programs, Management, Politics, Psychology, Relationships, Sylvia Lafair, Total Leadership Connections, Transformation, Workplace Relationships
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Tuesday, November 15th, 2011

The following guest blog by Marty Wolff truly resonates with our view of leadership, it’s equally important to have the business skills and the inner skills to really be an effective leader. Enjoy his guest blog on the “Inner Game”.
Many of the master teachers have been reminding us that success, both personal and professional is an “inner game”. What happens on the inside will reveal itself on the outside. We have heard these comments from so many wise people over time, yet many of us still don’t understand the power of learning how to make this inner game work for our success.
In this context, success can be defined as achieving a certain tangible or intangible goal. Let’s avoid any detailed definitions of what goals are, let’s suffice it to say a goal is something you want to achieve, a place you want to be, or a state of mind that keeps you calm through good and not so good times.
I believe in the inner game. I have learned about it, practiced it and gained by the implementation of what I have learned. This knowledge has helped me stay on my game both personally and professionally.
So, here are the 10 steps that I believe will help you achieve YOUR success. These steps will also help you maintain a level of desired performance.
- Take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you and the actions you take everyday. Don’t blame your spouse, your boss, the weather, the stock market or anything else. No matter what happens, if you have the right frame of mind you will take the right actions to move you to a different and better place.
- Read everyday. John Maxwell tells us that our success is the result of our daily agenda. Read something about business, the world, building relationships or other positive literature everyday. Feed your mind just like you feed your body.
- Mediate everyday. I have finally discovered the power of meditation. John Assaraf and Jack Canfield convinced me “success leaves clues”. If these two very successful people meditate everyday then it’s good enough for me. The funny thing is, the more my mind is going in circles, the longer I meditate. This takes real discipline on my part. For full disclosure and to keep your expectations in line, I meditate in the morning for any where from 15 to 45 minutes. This practice will help you focus on what is really important.
- Plan and take action on a business opportunity or personal goal that will benefit you in 6 to 12 months. Because we are so busy, we tend to let the day’s activities pull us along. That will find us at the day exhausted and with little satisfaction. If you are a business owner or a sales person this is very important. Thinking and planning for something to occur several months out, pulls you toward the goal. It energizes you. And when the time comes, which will come whether you planned or not, you will be so pleased that you set a goal and achieved it.
- Send out a gratitude note everyday. There is ample evidence that being grateful to people that you interact with has a positive effect on your thinking. Positive thinking leads to positive behavior, positive behavior leads to positive results.
- Work on a proposal everyday. If you don’t have one, create one. In business this is easy. If you do not have an active client you are working on, start to write a proposal on an account you have not even contacted yet, you will see yourself developing a plan to make them a client. For your personal life you may want to plan for a family reunion, a vacation, a new car or anything else you want to have or create 6 to 12 months down the road.
- Visualize your success. “See” it in your mind as if it is already accomplished. Athletes do this all the time. Statistics validate that athletes that “see” their success are in fact more successful than their competition.
- Exercise. Get physical everyday. For most of us our work days are very sedentary. We sit and work on a computer or some similar work.You need to move around as much as possible during the day. Take a walk at lunch, go to the gym before or after work. Try to get a minimum of 30 minutes vigorous exercise everyday. For me that is a brisk walk just about every morning. I’m describing physical exercise, however it is the “mind game” that gets you moving.
- Keep the promises you make to yourself. This practice can jump start your success plan. If you promise yourself to spend specific time with your family, then do it! If you promise yourself to make that extra sales call today, then do it! If you promise yourself you will lose 10 pounds in the next 60 days, then do it! Keep your promises to yourself. This will lead to you being a trusted family member and business associate.
- Finally. Affirm your worthiness. If you don’t believe you are worthy or deserve the success you seek, you will not get to where you want to go. If your self esteem needs work, then learn how to think better about yourself. You deserve peace and happiness.
I have been mentored by so many people over the years. They don’t know that, however through books, webinars, white papers, magazines etc. I have tried to learn how to improve. Improvement and excellence is never an accident, you need to work at it everyday. I suggest you pay attention to folks like John Assaraf, Jack Canfield, John Maxwell, Seth Godin, Bob Burg, Febienne Fredrickson, Janet Attwod, and Robin Sharma to name a few.
Good luck on your journey.
Marty is the CEO of Marty Wolff Business Solutions (MWBS). “We help people and their organizations perform better than they ever imagined”. Marty can be reached at marty@martywolffbusinesssolutions.com and his website is http://martywolffbusinesssolutions.com.
Tags: Accountability, Business, Coaching, Consulting, Leaders, Leadership, leadership development, Management
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Thursday, June 23rd, 2011

Leadership Pioneers
Billie Jean King is an icon of barrier breaking. When she was at her prime in tennis she still had to take the barbs and belittling that came with women champions back in the day. Why she would be food for comedians is a wonder, and yet, that’s where we were fifty years ago. Still inequality? Yes, and we all need to gather our voices for the new way that is in process of happening. That means a world where all skills and talents are respected and better yet, utilized.
Wimbledon Executive: Grunting Female Players ‘Spoiling’ Tennis filed by Michael Klopman the Huffington Post.
The millions in attendance at Wimbledon are apparently turned off by the loud grunting coming from the female tennis players, according to the head of Wimbledon.
In an interview with The Daily Telegraph, Ian Ritchie said that fans are frustrated with players who grunt too loudly. He also said that fans believe the loud grunting is “spoiling” the game.
“The players have an ability to complain about it, if one player is grunting too much and the other player doesn’t like it and it is distracting, they can complain to the umpire,” he said. “We have discussed it with the tours and we believe it is helpful to reduce the amount of grunting.”
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Tags: breaking barriers, CEO Inc., Huffington Post, inequality, Maria Sharapova, Sylvia Lafair, Victoria Azarenka, Wimbledon, Women champions, women tennis
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Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

It truly is all in the eyes of the beholder. I was at a business meeting and the leader of the team went on and on about a personal issue with a belligerent intern. She couldn’t believe someone so far down on the pecking order would act as if he was the CEO of the company.
Whenever the meeting was redirected back to real issues something triggered her upset and again she was off and running. The drama of the non-situation was causing squirming and eye rolling.
Have you ever been in a meeting like that? Everyone is frustrated and yet no one will say anything. If “time is money” this meeting was hemorrhaging into a negative financial situation.
Here is what finally happened. Someone familiar with patterns took the bull by the horns and said “Hey, this intern stuff would make a great sitcom; maybe we could sell it to Saturday Night Live”. That’s when the awkward silence settled over the room. No one knew where to go with his comment.
Did you ever count the forever seconds when silence covers a room like a thick fog on a sultry summer night? It felt like seven days before this same guy said “Look, we all have people issues, it comes with being in business. I hoped to break the drama with what I have learned is a “pattern interrupt”, that is saying something that is like throwing ice water, you know like a shock to the system to see things differently. So, how did I do?”
Awkward silence again.
Why is it so hard for most of us to tell the truth? What would have been in the way for someone to say early on “I know how upset you are with this intern so let’s take a few minutes to listen and maybe we can all come up with a few good suggestions for you”.
When truth enters the room awkward silences run for the hills.
Tags: interns, Meetings, personal issues, Silence, time is money, Truth, upsets, Wasting Time
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Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

What do we learn from competition? Is this where we get our self-esteem? What do we do when we lose? How do we handle setbacks? What does it mean when the mantra is “winning is everything”? Now in the legal system, Lance Armstrong does not say he took anything to make him able to go faster, to be stronger. All he said is “I did not test positive”. Is that like Bill Clinton’s famous refrain “I did not have sexual relations with that woman?”.
We need to start asking the hard questions before there will not be anyone left who is living life for the joy of it, win or lose, just for the delight of growing and learning. Let me know what you think.
The Armstrong Enigma by James Moore, contributor to the Huffington Post.
“If you live in Austin, you can almost breathe the Lance Armstrong legend in the air. Everybody intimately knows the tale and its grand parameters. Who has such athletic accomplishments; especially after cancer? His greatness and, indeed, humility were made even more manifest when he established a foundation to help in the global quest to end cancer. We have in our midst, many Texans believe, an individual who is exceptional in character and achievement.
The Armstrong profiled by interviews and narrative in the 60 Minutes report on CBS is difficult, if not impossible, for many people in Austin to process. The arc of Lance’s story has been always upward from the time he was pronounced cancer free. He got healthier, faster, fitter, wealthier, and more magnanimous with time. Every chapter of this American tale was written with bold strokes through nothing more than focus and determination.
There are now, however, several of Armstrong’s teammates during the period of his ride to glory, who are sketching out an anti-hero. The young man they describe thinks of regulations and rules as opponents to be defeated. Each of Armstrong’s teammates, meanwhile, is being attacked for a lack of credibility, and, in fact, their own confessions about doping turn them into liars. Tyler Hamilton, Floyd Landis, Stephen Swart, Frankie Andreu, and, if CBS is correct, George Hincapie, were all part of a deception to use performance-enhancing drugs (PEDs) to win. The points of attack are pretty easily established for Armstrong’s legal and public relations team.
But is Lance the only person telling the truth? Are most of his teammates jealous and petty and pathological liars? They seem to have created an alternative reality with their words.
Armstrong is dismissing Hamilton, as he has other accusers, for lacking credibility. The level of detail described by Lance’s former teammate, however, is difficult to ignore even for casual observers of this controversy. Hamilton, who appeared drawn and a bit emotionally tortured during the taping, told of flying in a private jet to Spain with Lance where they were both transfused with their own red blood cells, a process called blood doping, which improves endurance. He also claimed Armstrong shipped him drugs, that they both put drops of testosterone oil into each other’s mouths after a race, and that he was in the room during conversations with a controversial doctor who was teaching them how and when to use PEDs. Lunch bags of goodies, according to Hamilton, were given to riders that had earned their way into the inner circle. He also said he saw Armstrong use EPO and indicated there was a program driven by Armstrong and the team coach Johan Bruyneel. A similar description was provided by Swart to Sports Illustrated. Regardless, Tyler Hamilton either has a very active imagination or he has opened the door to ignominy for an American icon.”
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Tags: Accountability, ask hard questions, CEO Inc., Character, Communication, Conflict, Creative Energy Options, Huffington Post, Integrity, Lance Armstrong, Leadership, leadership development, personal growth, Sylvia Lafair, Will Power
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Thursday, April 28th, 2011

I have to go to court. That is a rarity for me. Long ago when I worked in the field of child abuse I was called to testify as an expert witness. The courtroom is never a pleasant place; it has to do with winners and losers. My work is about how to find that sweet spot of connections and collaboration, no matter how contentious a situation may seem.
However, I feel strongly that when we give our word it is binding and we need to live up to contracts. The dictum is to say what we mean and do what we say.
I am going to court because a client (in over 30 years this is new for me) has stiffed me on paying for services rendered. I have called, sent notes, sent emails, and now it is time for action.
What is so fascinating is that this case has gotten some attention in the news and while all I have said is “I believe what I teach in our Total Leadership Connections program, that we are all accountable for our word.” That’s it. I have said nothing more.
I have received several dozen emails thanking me for what I am doing. These responses are from individuals I have never met. That is the power of the web to connect. The theme of the response has been “Thank you for doing this; just because someone has been in the news does not make them above the law.”
I have also been thanked for the simple statement of accountability, one that many of the email responders suggests is lacking in our world.
My program, Total Leadership Connections and book “Don’t Bring It to Work” are based on universal principles about relationships. I do believe that when we think about our actions and do not render others invisible (done to me by the constant ignoring of the bill) we show up at a level of leadership that truly matters. The court case is soon. It is not one of my favorite things to occupy my time, yet it is important for me to stand and be counted. I do this for myself and appreciate those who have encouraged me in this frustrating legal dispute.
Tags: Accountability, client, court, Don't Bring It to Work, matters, rarity, respond, thank you, TLC
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Thursday, April 7th, 2011
There is a wonderful on-going discussion on the TED group of Linkedin that really gives pause to think about values and integrity. How do we stay in the realm of doing the right thing and what constitutes living by healthy values that limit contention and the need for lawyers to solve our issues?
I am wondering who out there has ever been in a contractual agreement with someone with a sentence or a handshake that has later been blown off. What are the ramifications of this type of behavior? Does it then mean a lawsuit or is the matter shoved under the rug and forgotten?
I believe the days of a handshake are sadly behind us and I wonder why this is. In our leadership program, we dig down, way down when we teach about accountability and the ideas of alignment between thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Did you ever wonder what business would be like in a “Say what you mean and do what you say” world?
I am sorting out the fact that when there is too much trust people have a tendency to “forget” agreements. Is it vital to always have a paper trail? What kinds of agreements can be made with verbal acknowledgment or a handshake?
I’d love to hear your comments and some real life stories about people doing the right thing for the right reasons.
Tags: Accountability, Handshake, Integrity, LinkedIn, TED, Verbal Agreements
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